and if yes in wich areas of the city( or if you know in wich other places in Nj )they are rising ,also the girl is generally dark or light skinned , this is not a racist question this is just a survey and i promise that i never put this type of question here in Ny thx a lotIn New York are black women/white american men couples on the rise?
In the more trendy areas of Manhattan (Soho, the Village, Union Square) this is common. As a black man it makes me sick. In New York are black women/white american men couples on the rise?
i don't see any particular trend anywhere, but i live on the upper west side and i'm friends with such a couple in my building. there's also another such couple on my street.
as an asian i think it's cool that the ';races'; are mixing things up a bit!
Yes there are lots of them why don't you find a black girl are you shy are you afraid you can't handle one?
i dont think they are on the rise--in fact i rarely see it...if snything i would say black men/white girls happens more often
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Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Why do couples hold hands during their wedding ?
Because they love each other.Why do couples hold hands during their wedding ?
its a sign of togetherness and mutual affection.Why do couples hold hands during their wedding ?
Is it necessary ?
why wouldn't they? its just a sign of affection
At least in our case ... because the officiant told us to.
I think it looks nicer than if we weren't.
it's just for formalities !
you know every boxer before fight shakes hand with it's opponent !
They r scared that the other will run away at the last moment....
Like in ';The Run away Bride';... lol...
its jus a sign to show tat for Life n beyond i promise to stand by u n hold u thru all ur joyous n difficult times...
Why would you not want to hold/be with the person you are getting married too AT THAT MOMENT?
Because often, something like this is said during the ceremony . . .
MINISTER
'; Who gives this woman to be married to this man?';
BRIDE'S FATHER
';Her mother and I do.';
(Bride's father places her hand in Groom's hand and is seated)
It shows that the bride's father is entrusting her to the groom's care and protection.
Of course, this all comes from back in the olden days when women were actually considered to be property. Now, we are no one's property. This giving-away portion of the ceremony may be skipped entirely, if the bride wishes.
I held my husbands hand during our ceremony because I love him so much. There you are holding each others hands committing your love to one another. It wasn't even because we were told we just did it. There is nothing like it, when you holding the hand of your soon to be husband/wife it's magical.
We only did while my officiant was saying a prayer at the end of the ceremony. We faced each other and didn't hold hands. You can do whatever you want.
its a sign of togetherness and mutual affection.Why do couples hold hands during their wedding ?
Is it necessary ?
why wouldn't they? its just a sign of affection
At least in our case ... because the officiant told us to.
I think it looks nicer than if we weren't.
it's just for formalities !
you know every boxer before fight shakes hand with it's opponent !
They r scared that the other will run away at the last moment....
Like in ';The Run away Bride';... lol...
its jus a sign to show tat for Life n beyond i promise to stand by u n hold u thru all ur joyous n difficult times...
Why would you not want to hold/be with the person you are getting married too AT THAT MOMENT?
Because often, something like this is said during the ceremony . . .
MINISTER
'; Who gives this woman to be married to this man?';
BRIDE'S FATHER
';Her mother and I do.';
(Bride's father places her hand in Groom's hand and is seated)
It shows that the bride's father is entrusting her to the groom's care and protection.
Of course, this all comes from back in the olden days when women were actually considered to be property. Now, we are no one's property. This giving-away portion of the ceremony may be skipped entirely, if the bride wishes.
I held my husbands hand during our ceremony because I love him so much. There you are holding each others hands committing your love to one another. It wasn't even because we were told we just did it. There is nothing like it, when you holding the hand of your soon to be husband/wife it's magical.
We only did while my officiant was saying a prayer at the end of the ceremony. We faced each other and didn't hold hands. You can do whatever you want.
Heyy im doing a project where did u meet ur husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend same sex couples 2 plz thnx?
We met in an AOL chatroom. I was bored, wanting to go out and my best friend didn't. I got on her computer, went into the chatroom and pulled his profile at random. I IM'd him, we chatted for a few minutes and agreed to meet at a dance club. We hit it off, and we've been together almost 8 years, married for 1. I like to think of it as destiny...why else would I randomly pick him out of 30 or 40 other people?
Heyy im doing a project where did u meet ur husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend same sex couples 2 plz thnx?
During daily exercise walks. We would meet up almost each night along our routes. We would pass by and say hi. One night it just happen to be we went around the route the same way, ended up walking together. It went from there.Heyy im doing a project where did u meet ur husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend same sex couples 2 plz thnx?
I met him at work.... he was my boss!!
(b/f - g/f)
I met him in a nightclub. He was getting yelled at by a bouncer for sitting on a chair wrong (he sat on the top of the back rest with his feet on the seat part).
A girl I was with kept saying ';I know him from somewhere';. I just said, ';well wherever he's from..he looks good';....
She went to talk to him, leaving me along, which kind of p^ssed me off, so I walked by and said something to her, he stopped talking to her, looked at me and his jaw dropped. I smiled and kept walking. The rest is history. That was 21 years ago and we're still together with 2 kids.
**and yes, my friend did know him from somewhere...she'd dated his best friend back in their hometown 1500 miles away...
We met on eharmony 4 years ago,%26amp; were married 14 months ago.A very good site,we believe.
through a friend!
Heyy im doing a project where did u meet ur husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend same sex couples 2 plz thnx?
During daily exercise walks. We would meet up almost each night along our routes. We would pass by and say hi. One night it just happen to be we went around the route the same way, ended up walking together. It went from there.Heyy im doing a project where did u meet ur husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend same sex couples 2 plz thnx?
I met him at work.... he was my boss!!
(b/f - g/f)
I met him in a nightclub. He was getting yelled at by a bouncer for sitting on a chair wrong (he sat on the top of the back rest with his feet on the seat part).
A girl I was with kept saying ';I know him from somewhere';. I just said, ';well wherever he's from..he looks good';....
She went to talk to him, leaving me along, which kind of p^ssed me off, so I walked by and said something to her, he stopped talking to her, looked at me and his jaw dropped. I smiled and kept walking. The rest is history. That was 21 years ago and we're still together with 2 kids.
**and yes, my friend did know him from somewhere...she'd dated his best friend back in their hometown 1500 miles away...
We met on eharmony 4 years ago,%26amp; were married 14 months ago.A very good site,we believe.
through a friend!
Why do couples in high school make out in hallways?
It is completely and utterly annoying, rude and disgusting. I don't mind some PDA because it understandable, but is it really necessary to be all over each other? And stopping in the flippin' MIDDLE OF THE HALLWAY to hold hands...??! Really? I just want to know why you couples do that. How come? Is it to show off? Why?Why do couples in high school make out in hallways?
the making out is disgusting,
but a little kissing is good, and holding hands is great!
why does the holding hands bother you...?Why do couples in high school make out in hallways?
because they want to show off their relationship or the guy wants to impress his friends. maybe the girls just a ho? because they the girl thinks its cute and the guy is just trying to get some. i hatehatehate when couples are all over eachother in the halls. but holding hands and a peck is always cute
yeah i know it is annoying.
i have made my boyfriend clam down on PDA and only hold hands and occasionally a short kiss.
some teenagers like to make out in the hallways to show off which is really stupid.
but the little things people just do because they think it is cute
honestly bc they love each other alot, i never did that but it wasnt til after highschool i found someone that i was that happy with to not give a care what other ppl thought of me, i kiss him at any place any time i figure if ppl don't like it they can look away woot woot
cuz they love each other
idk i never made out with mine
he would put his arm around me waste but that was about it
Ew that disgusts me.
They just want attention.
the making out is disgusting,
but a little kissing is good, and holding hands is great!
why does the holding hands bother you...?Why do couples in high school make out in hallways?
because they want to show off their relationship or the guy wants to impress his friends. maybe the girls just a ho? because they the girl thinks its cute and the guy is just trying to get some. i hatehatehate when couples are all over eachother in the halls. but holding hands and a peck is always cute
yeah i know it is annoying.
i have made my boyfriend clam down on PDA and only hold hands and occasionally a short kiss.
some teenagers like to make out in the hallways to show off which is really stupid.
but the little things people just do because they think it is cute
honestly bc they love each other alot, i never did that but it wasnt til after highschool i found someone that i was that happy with to not give a care what other ppl thought of me, i kiss him at any place any time i figure if ppl don't like it they can look away woot woot
cuz they love each other
idk i never made out with mine
he would put his arm around me waste but that was about it
Ew that disgusts me.
They just want attention.
For the couples that are successful in their marriage?
How did you know for sure that this is the person you are supposed marry? Was there a certain point where you knew by something he/she did or said or did you just hope for the best?For the couples that are successful in their marriage?
With my first wife, I hoped for the best and got the worst. We just never clicked unless we both wanted to. Now, my new wife and I are good friends and great lovers, of life and each other.
Success in marriage can only happen when you've found your best friend...For the couples that are successful in their marriage?
You ALWAYS hope for the best. As for that certain person. Let your heart decide. If it feels absolutely right (after a period of time together) then maybe it's the ONE.
There was no way of knowing. Love is not what defines the relationship and how it will last. What defines the relationship is how well the couple handles adversity and comes together in a crisis. That is when the real love, affection and emotion is revealed.
you never know for sure! sometimes you just get lucky and things work out with lots of communication and having the same beliefs...its worst than going to las vegas as far as odds go.pimple
With my first wife, I hoped for the best and got the worst. We just never clicked unless we both wanted to. Now, my new wife and I are good friends and great lovers, of life and each other.
Success in marriage can only happen when you've found your best friend...For the couples that are successful in their marriage?
You ALWAYS hope for the best. As for that certain person. Let your heart decide. If it feels absolutely right (after a period of time together) then maybe it's the ONE.
There was no way of knowing. Love is not what defines the relationship and how it will last. What defines the relationship is how well the couple handles adversity and comes together in a crisis. That is when the real love, affection and emotion is revealed.
you never know for sure! sometimes you just get lucky and things work out with lots of communication and having the same beliefs...its worst than going to las vegas as far as odds go.
In what states is it legal for same sex couples to marry?
For sure Maryland ,Massachusetts, New Jersey %26amp; Vermount... i heard that California but i am not sure about that... But in Maryland u do not have to be state resadance to get married there. my 1/2 sisters aunt went to maryland a couple years ago and married her partner
I remember them saying that it is not recanised as marrige here in pa but they were considerd life partners or a civil union they would not be able to collect from the goverment from one another or file income tax together but just the same they did not care.... it was kinda cool one wore a white! wedding dress and the other a tux and got married right in a gay church. It was something to see i can tell you that much. Her partner ended up dying just 16 months after they were married and she was gay since she was a early teen she had a son from a one night stand with a guy just to see what it was like.. anyway... all she ever wanted was to get married to the right woman and her dream came true..and her son has a parent in his life he would not of had one because his father was no where to be found. the son lives with the aunt and thinks of her as his mother and is not afraid to tell anyone that his mom is dead but his other mom is raising him now. Now rather i agree with the life style is another story..In what states is it legal for same sex couples to marry?
ALL I WANT TO KNOW IS IT A LEGAL BINDED
In what states is it legal for same sex couples to marry?
New Jersey, Massachusettes, and Vermont are the only states that have passed a ';civil'; union law. Though it is possible in other states, those are the only ones that specify it as Legal.
Hawaii
Right now, same-sex couples can only marry in Massachusetts. They have to be state residents.
I remember them saying that it is not recanised as marrige here in pa but they were considerd life partners or a civil union they would not be able to collect from the goverment from one another or file income tax together but just the same they did not care.... it was kinda cool one wore a white! wedding dress and the other a tux and got married right in a gay church. It was something to see i can tell you that much. Her partner ended up dying just 16 months after they were married and she was gay since she was a early teen she had a son from a one night stand with a guy just to see what it was like.. anyway... all she ever wanted was to get married to the right woman and her dream came true..and her son has a parent in his life he would not of had one because his father was no where to be found. the son lives with the aunt and thinks of her as his mother and is not afraid to tell anyone that his mom is dead but his other mom is raising him now. Now rather i agree with the life style is another story..In what states is it legal for same sex couples to marry?
ALL I WANT TO KNOW IS IT A LEGAL BINDED
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In what states is it legal for same sex couples to marry?
New Jersey, Massachusettes, and Vermont are the only states that have passed a ';civil'; union law. Though it is possible in other states, those are the only ones that specify it as Legal.
Hawaii
Right now, same-sex couples can only marry in Massachusetts. They have to be state residents.
What are some good ';date night'; ideas for married couples costing only $200?
Although I'm not married, what I've seen where I am (Metro Detroit area) is that couples seem to go to the casinos locally. I would think that an inexpensive dinner, then a few hours at the casino would be enjoyable. Especially on weekends when there's often free entertainment and so on. Seems a good way to unwind and socialize, plus maybe even walk out with more than the $200!What are some good ';date night'; ideas for married couples costing only $200?
We are having a Mardi Gras themed dinner with a nice place setting and festive centerpiece. The women are wearing Mardi Gras masks and men beads. We will have Mardi Gras music in the background.
Other options:
I don't know where you live but, you can have a candle light picnic on the lake, park or backyard. Attend a jazz concert in the park. Go to a mystery dinner theatre. Have a fondue couples party - blind fold your mate and feed them a variety of items with chocolate and/or cheese on it. Play board games, eat junk food and consume drink fun (find a cool recipe).What are some good ';date night'; ideas for married couples costing only $200?
With 200 dollars, you can do alot.
Just depends on what kinda date your
thinking about like romantic or fun and outgoing.
For fun and outgoing try looking up a comedy club
or something that the two of you may be interested in.
Romantic could be a poetry reading or a romantic dinner
at a nice restaurant maybe with a nice view of the city.
Find a local gallery that will be hosting an opening with wine and cheese. You can discuss art while sipping on wine.
Take dancing lessons together, then practice your moves at a local bar or restaurant that hosts a weekly Salsa or Tango night.
If you have some favorite recipes, have a night where you cook dinner together. Or get a one-on-one lesson with a local chef and learn how to prepare a new dish.
Go to the theatre to see a play or opera together. Go shopping before for a new dress.
Go shopping together for sexy new lingerie, then check out a sex store to get something naughty for later that night. Don't forget the chocolate syrup...Redi-whip is good too.
If you can stay out all night, how about renting a nice motel room, and have a nice dinner, maybe go dancing and then a romantic evening at the hotel.
1) dinner and a movie
2) at home game night
3) bar hopping
4) bowling
We are having a Mardi Gras themed dinner with a nice place setting and festive centerpiece. The women are wearing Mardi Gras masks and men beads. We will have Mardi Gras music in the background.
Other options:
I don't know where you live but, you can have a candle light picnic on the lake, park or backyard. Attend a jazz concert in the park. Go to a mystery dinner theatre. Have a fondue couples party - blind fold your mate and feed them a variety of items with chocolate and/or cheese on it. Play board games, eat junk food and consume drink fun (find a cool recipe).What are some good ';date night'; ideas for married couples costing only $200?
With 200 dollars, you can do alot.
Just depends on what kinda date your
thinking about like romantic or fun and outgoing.
For fun and outgoing try looking up a comedy club
or something that the two of you may be interested in.
Romantic could be a poetry reading or a romantic dinner
at a nice restaurant maybe with a nice view of the city.
Find a local gallery that will be hosting an opening with wine and cheese. You can discuss art while sipping on wine.
Take dancing lessons together, then practice your moves at a local bar or restaurant that hosts a weekly Salsa or Tango night.
If you have some favorite recipes, have a night where you cook dinner together. Or get a one-on-one lesson with a local chef and learn how to prepare a new dish.
Go to the theatre to see a play or opera together. Go shopping before for a new dress.
Go shopping together for sexy new lingerie, then check out a sex store to get something naughty for later that night. Don't forget the chocolate syrup...Redi-whip is good too.
If you can stay out all night, how about renting a nice motel room, and have a nice dinner, maybe go dancing and then a romantic evening at the hotel.
1) dinner and a movie
2) at home game night
3) bar hopping
4) bowling
Heyy im doing a project where did u meet ur husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend same sex couples 2 plz thnx?
Sorry, I'm not part of a same sex couple right now. But I did meet this friendly lesbian that night in a New York bar. One of those gay/lesbian venues. My friend dragged me there to find himself a boyfriend. I think the name was Stonewall
Do swinging couples really love their spouses?
If both partners are opening to swinging and it is a practice they enjoy then yes.
I don't understand the lifestyle myself but it apparently has a lot of proponents.Do swinging couples really love their spouses?
yes. its the only correct way that you can participate in that type of relationship. couples do a lot of things for the wrong reasons, including swinging couples. the divorce rate is 50% among non-swinging couples and the ';marital'; risk among swinging couples is not statistically any different.
god has more important things to worry about than if 2,3, or 4 people want to have adult consensual sex, such as judging those who feel they should condemn others which in itself is a role reserved for god.
if i can say firsthand that such experiences do not cause marital harm and that there is more trust and love in my marriage than there is in most others, how can anyone make 2nd hand claims of how bad it is tmarriages when you have no firsthand knowledge.
you dont have to agree or participate in swinging but you are the least qualified to make any judgments about those who do.
ADD: for those who think god has an issue wouldnt he also have a similar issue with premarital sex? have you never had premarital sex either? are there degrees of anger god expresses that you are the earthly judge of? if interested send me an email and i can explain it better.Do swinging couples really love their spouses?
';Swinging couples'; should NOT take vows of marriage in front of witnesses and swear to honor the vows. Having sex with other people goes directly against the main idea of marriage - HELLO?
I suppose ';swingers'; could indeed love each other, but the love they have for themselves and SEX is obviously MUCH greater.
No thanks.
love means committment. would you call swinging couples committed? [of course they are committed to swinging.]
love is being possessive about one another. swinging couples dont mind sharing so.....
love means wanting only that one particular partner. no one else will do. swinging partneres can do with anyone.
love is forever. swinging is ever changng.
I only know of one couple that I can say for certain does. They're friends of mine and have been married for 30 years, swinging for 15. Seeing them together, I have no doubt that they love one another deeply. I think some others do love one another, but enter swinging for all the wrong reasons... to repair issues in their marriage. In the end, these couples don't find happiness.
I believe people that are married and feel the need to swing is because they have a priority over any love they feel for their spouse, and that priority is sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure means more to them to the point they would rather share their spouse with someone else than to be deprived of their sexual fantasies with others. People who swing have a misconception of what love and marriage is supposed to be like. Marriage is about loving someone so much that you take vows to be faithful and committed to this one person through bad and good times. I truly feel swingers are hypocrites. They take vows they never intended to keep. It would have more respect for swingers if they simply just stood single and this way they can be free to have sex with anyone or with as many people has they want. They marry in order to appear as respectible people to the world, but in their private world they break all marital vows with the consent of their spouse. I think they have no self control and love to indulge on self pleasure events. Sorry, this is just my opinion.
I'm not married nor do I know of any swingers. But this is just my opinion:
When I'm in love I want my bf all to myself, mind, body and soul. If one is missing, then there's something missing/wrong with the relationship.
My ex once told me: ';if a man cheats on you once, then he made a mistake, if he does it twice then he doesn't love you. If he accepts you cheating on him more then twice, then he doesn't respect you.'; He cheated on me once and we broke up. But what he stated said a lot to me.
think about it, if you're married, you are only for that person; so if you're with others you're also theirs and therefore not only for him. And the same goes for the guy!
Hoo boy. Where to start.
';marriage is a religious commitment and has certain rules';
No, actually it's not. The whole of westernized society seems to believe this and that to be considered truly married, the relationship must comply with ';certain rules';. If it doesn't, then it doesn't count...regardless of the quantity or quality of love that a couple may share, and regardless of whether or not they give a sh*t about what the world around them thinks. Sex seems to be the biggest hang-up, though. A blind eye can be turned to most everything else.
';love is being possessive about one another.';
How old are you? NO, love is NOT about being possessive. For those who so like to quote the Holy Bible, check out 1 Corinthians 13 (http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?boo鈥?/a>
Love is about the forgetting of one's self for the sake of another's happiness.
';love means wanting only that one particular partner. no one else will do. swinging partneres can do with anyone.';
False.
';Having sex with other people goes directly against the main idea of marriage - HELLO?';
And so you mean that the main idea of marriage is about the binding and gagging of one's sexuality? It's about sexual ownership? Is that it? Yeah...HELLO?! is right.
';I suppose ';swingers'; could indeed love each other, but the love they have for themselves and SEX is obviously MUCH greater.';
Is that a fact. And you know this...how? ';Obviously';, eh? This is yet another example of someone giving advice/answers about something they are not qualified to discuss. If this answerer had done his/her homework he/she would see how untrue it is.
And now for Pictures's reply:
';I believe people that are married and feel the need to swing is because they have a priority over any love they feel for their spouse, and that priority is sexual pleasure.';
Well, you can believe the sky is green if you like, but that doesn't make it so.
';Sexual pleasure means more to them to the point they would rather share their spouse with someone else than to be deprived of their sexual fantasies with others.';
This does happen with some couples and it's a real shame. People get into swinging for all sorts of reasons, some good, some bad. It's unfair to tar everyone with the same stick, though.
';People who swing have a misconception of what love and marriage is supposed to be like. Marriage is about loving someone so much that you take vows to be faithful and committed to this one person through bad and good times.';
Really. And apparently some people think swingers are mindless, ignorant sex addicts who are beyond stupid, who are hopelessly naive and who probably weren't hugged enough growing up. Is it really so hard to believe that we might know EXACTLY what we're doing? That we've been through ';real'; marriage before and that we no longer agree with it? Do you really suppose we are so lacking in wisdom or life experience?
';I truly feel swingers are hypocrites. They take vows they never intended to keep.';
LOL. Oh no, I took my vows quite seriously. We were married like anyone else. To make a long story short, though, we had a major breakdown and it was either reinvent our relationship so that it was something we both wanted, or grab a shovel and bury it. So we threw out our old vows and ';remarried'; one another, standing in the kitchen in front of the sink. We put our rings back on one another and I promise you it was probably more solemn and meaningful than our first wedding.
';They marry in order to appear as respectible people to the world, but in their private world they break all marital vows with the consent of their spouse.';
That's a little contradictory. How can I break a promise to my spouse that was never part of our marital agreement? Is it not a real marriage because we don't have that condition that says we must be monogamous? The cookie isn't a ';real'; cookie unless it's got chocolate chips in it, is that it? And BTW, I really don't give a d4mn what the rest of the world thinks, so we follow along with society's silly rules only to avoid getting into arguments and disrupting our otherwise harmonious lives.
';I think they have no self control and love to indulge on self pleasure events. Sorry, this is just my opinion.';
Indeed. I'm glad it's just your opinion and you aren't responsible for being our judge. I surely would not want a judge who was so misinformed and yet thought she knew more than enough to pass judgment.
In case you missed it, YES, swinging couples really do love their spouses.
We have been swinging for 9 years and yes, we are in love with one another. Not only do we have love, we have trust and commitment.
Sex is not what binds a marriage, it's the true love that is felt between them.
Don't be so quick to judge when you are clueless to the facts and many posts here certainly point to being clueless.
Ginni
I believe so. Love is actually an emotion and a relating to one another, love comes in many different shapes, sizes and forms and who's to say those couples don't love eachother more then the couples who don't. Sex is just that sex and love, well, is just that, it's much larger and much more bigger then sex will ever be.
Marriage for some -on the other hand, I think is more of a financial convience to MOST maybe at first it didn't start out that way but look at all the people who stay togehter just b/c they've had children and don't want to pay child support, look at the women who marry just b/c they don't want to work, look at the people who marry for love then decided later thats not what they want b/c suddenly they don't even know themselves.
I am in my marriage b/c I want to be, I've turned many men down until I found just the right person suited for me and my life style, one that had a simular life style. I know who I am, he and I could never live a lie! I know who he is without deciet and lies without worry. Not saying that we are swinger just saying we've experienced and actually it made us both grow and learn and I love more, my marriage, him, my life, ect and if he and I had not experienced then honestly I think we would have already been divorced, I also believe that he feels the same way. I love being myslef, I love that my husband can be himself without worry that one of us may have said something wrong, I love that there is very little jealousy in our marriage and that our communications on all levels are true and not that of lies or from someone trying to be someone they are not b/c they are trying so hard to please the other person and be someone else that their spouce wants them to be. It is the true self that one can be without all the head games. Only if two are mature enough and have the trust in one another to love uncondtionally. I think it takes a lot of work, a lot of experience and a lot of droping opinions and molds from up bringings, it's finding out who you really are and becoming that true one person then finding the right person that already knows themsleve. What we are told of what is right or wrong may be different then the whole truth and nothing but the truth, who really is to say? In Roman Days and before marriage was a rule - love was free, it was shared by all not limited!
People who swing shouldnt be married, marriage is a religious commitment and has certain rules ....adultry being one rule that is considered so bad that the Lord gives that as one of only few reasons for a marriage to be terminated.....swinging is adultry period.
i'm sure that they do love their spouse...but they are making a huge mistake. it's a pandora's box that has messed up a lot of marriages. everyone is quick to say ';well, i'm a swinger, and i've been happy for years...yadda yadda yadda';. those people are the exception, not the rule.
It depends on the couple. SUCCESSFUL swinging couples do. Anyone who's in it just to get laid or because they don't like their spouse is probably not going to be part of a couple for long.
I was say yes and it has nothing to do with loving your spouse. If you and your spouse choose to have open relations with other people so be it. At least they are not sneaking behind each others backs.
I don't know. I do think swinging is selfish, and a skewed view of what sex is and what it is for.
i dunno...but i could never swing and i know my husband says he would never do that...we both cant imagine each other w/ any one else other then our selves...But if people choose to, then each to their own...Just not something we would ever do!
Not with the right kind of love. Love doesnt hurt and isnt disfunctional. It doesnt hurt you emotionally and spiritually.
i wouldn't know. i wouldn't think so much tough.
i wouldn't be with a swinger ever anyway.
I really doubt it. I wouldnt like any other man having sex with my wife and I hope she wouldnt like me being with anyone else. some things just arent meant to be shared and sex isnt one of them
i have to say no not totally
if they have to look elsewhere something is wrong
but if both think its okay, well ok
No because swingers are not considerate to the spouse! You lose to a one nighter!
NOT ACCORDING TO THE MAN ABOVE!!
IN GODS EYES THEY DONT
yes they do, as well as the other guys
I don't understand the lifestyle myself but it apparently has a lot of proponents.Do swinging couples really love their spouses?
yes. its the only correct way that you can participate in that type of relationship. couples do a lot of things for the wrong reasons, including swinging couples. the divorce rate is 50% among non-swinging couples and the ';marital'; risk among swinging couples is not statistically any different.
god has more important things to worry about than if 2,3, or 4 people want to have adult consensual sex, such as judging those who feel they should condemn others which in itself is a role reserved for god.
if i can say firsthand that such experiences do not cause marital harm and that there is more trust and love in my marriage than there is in most others, how can anyone make 2nd hand claims of how bad it is tmarriages when you have no firsthand knowledge.
you dont have to agree or participate in swinging but you are the least qualified to make any judgments about those who do.
ADD: for those who think god has an issue wouldnt he also have a similar issue with premarital sex? have you never had premarital sex either? are there degrees of anger god expresses that you are the earthly judge of? if interested send me an email and i can explain it better.Do swinging couples really love their spouses?
';Swinging couples'; should NOT take vows of marriage in front of witnesses and swear to honor the vows. Having sex with other people goes directly against the main idea of marriage - HELLO?
I suppose ';swingers'; could indeed love each other, but the love they have for themselves and SEX is obviously MUCH greater.
No thanks.
love means committment. would you call swinging couples committed? [of course they are committed to swinging.]
love is being possessive about one another. swinging couples dont mind sharing so.....
love means wanting only that one particular partner. no one else will do. swinging partneres can do with anyone.
love is forever. swinging is ever changng.
I only know of one couple that I can say for certain does. They're friends of mine and have been married for 30 years, swinging for 15. Seeing them together, I have no doubt that they love one another deeply. I think some others do love one another, but enter swinging for all the wrong reasons... to repair issues in their marriage. In the end, these couples don't find happiness.
I believe people that are married and feel the need to swing is because they have a priority over any love they feel for their spouse, and that priority is sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure means more to them to the point they would rather share their spouse with someone else than to be deprived of their sexual fantasies with others. People who swing have a misconception of what love and marriage is supposed to be like. Marriage is about loving someone so much that you take vows to be faithful and committed to this one person through bad and good times. I truly feel swingers are hypocrites. They take vows they never intended to keep. It would have more respect for swingers if they simply just stood single and this way they can be free to have sex with anyone or with as many people has they want. They marry in order to appear as respectible people to the world, but in their private world they break all marital vows with the consent of their spouse. I think they have no self control and love to indulge on self pleasure events. Sorry, this is just my opinion.
I'm not married nor do I know of any swingers. But this is just my opinion:
When I'm in love I want my bf all to myself, mind, body and soul. If one is missing, then there's something missing/wrong with the relationship.
My ex once told me: ';if a man cheats on you once, then he made a mistake, if he does it twice then he doesn't love you. If he accepts you cheating on him more then twice, then he doesn't respect you.'; He cheated on me once and we broke up. But what he stated said a lot to me.
think about it, if you're married, you are only for that person; so if you're with others you're also theirs and therefore not only for him. And the same goes for the guy!
Hoo boy. Where to start.
';marriage is a religious commitment and has certain rules';
No, actually it's not. The whole of westernized society seems to believe this and that to be considered truly married, the relationship must comply with ';certain rules';. If it doesn't, then it doesn't count...regardless of the quantity or quality of love that a couple may share, and regardless of whether or not they give a sh*t about what the world around them thinks. Sex seems to be the biggest hang-up, though. A blind eye can be turned to most everything else.
';love is being possessive about one another.';
How old are you? NO, love is NOT about being possessive. For those who so like to quote the Holy Bible, check out 1 Corinthians 13 (http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?boo鈥?/a>
Love is about the forgetting of one's self for the sake of another's happiness.
';love means wanting only that one particular partner. no one else will do. swinging partneres can do with anyone.';
False.
';Having sex with other people goes directly against the main idea of marriage - HELLO?';
And so you mean that the main idea of marriage is about the binding and gagging of one's sexuality? It's about sexual ownership? Is that it? Yeah...HELLO?! is right.
';I suppose ';swingers'; could indeed love each other, but the love they have for themselves and SEX is obviously MUCH greater.';
Is that a fact. And you know this...how? ';Obviously';, eh? This is yet another example of someone giving advice/answers about something they are not qualified to discuss. If this answerer had done his/her homework he/she would see how untrue it is.
And now for Pictures's reply:
';I believe people that are married and feel the need to swing is because they have a priority over any love they feel for their spouse, and that priority is sexual pleasure.';
Well, you can believe the sky is green if you like, but that doesn't make it so.
';Sexual pleasure means more to them to the point they would rather share their spouse with someone else than to be deprived of their sexual fantasies with others.';
This does happen with some couples and it's a real shame. People get into swinging for all sorts of reasons, some good, some bad. It's unfair to tar everyone with the same stick, though.
';People who swing have a misconception of what love and marriage is supposed to be like. Marriage is about loving someone so much that you take vows to be faithful and committed to this one person through bad and good times.';
Really. And apparently some people think swingers are mindless, ignorant sex addicts who are beyond stupid, who are hopelessly naive and who probably weren't hugged enough growing up. Is it really so hard to believe that we might know EXACTLY what we're doing? That we've been through ';real'; marriage before and that we no longer agree with it? Do you really suppose we are so lacking in wisdom or life experience?
';I truly feel swingers are hypocrites. They take vows they never intended to keep.';
LOL. Oh no, I took my vows quite seriously. We were married like anyone else. To make a long story short, though, we had a major breakdown and it was either reinvent our relationship so that it was something we both wanted, or grab a shovel and bury it. So we threw out our old vows and ';remarried'; one another, standing in the kitchen in front of the sink. We put our rings back on one another and I promise you it was probably more solemn and meaningful than our first wedding.
';They marry in order to appear as respectible people to the world, but in their private world they break all marital vows with the consent of their spouse.';
That's a little contradictory. How can I break a promise to my spouse that was never part of our marital agreement? Is it not a real marriage because we don't have that condition that says we must be monogamous? The cookie isn't a ';real'; cookie unless it's got chocolate chips in it, is that it? And BTW, I really don't give a d4mn what the rest of the world thinks, so we follow along with society's silly rules only to avoid getting into arguments and disrupting our otherwise harmonious lives.
';I think they have no self control and love to indulge on self pleasure events. Sorry, this is just my opinion.';
Indeed. I'm glad it's just your opinion and you aren't responsible for being our judge. I surely would not want a judge who was so misinformed and yet thought she knew more than enough to pass judgment.
In case you missed it, YES, swinging couples really do love their spouses.
We have been swinging for 9 years and yes, we are in love with one another. Not only do we have love, we have trust and commitment.
Sex is not what binds a marriage, it's the true love that is felt between them.
Don't be so quick to judge when you are clueless to the facts and many posts here certainly point to being clueless.
Ginni
I believe so. Love is actually an emotion and a relating to one another, love comes in many different shapes, sizes and forms and who's to say those couples don't love eachother more then the couples who don't. Sex is just that sex and love, well, is just that, it's much larger and much more bigger then sex will ever be.
Marriage for some -on the other hand, I think is more of a financial convience to MOST maybe at first it didn't start out that way but look at all the people who stay togehter just b/c they've had children and don't want to pay child support, look at the women who marry just b/c they don't want to work, look at the people who marry for love then decided later thats not what they want b/c suddenly they don't even know themselves.
I am in my marriage b/c I want to be, I've turned many men down until I found just the right person suited for me and my life style, one that had a simular life style. I know who I am, he and I could never live a lie! I know who he is without deciet and lies without worry. Not saying that we are swinger just saying we've experienced and actually it made us both grow and learn and I love more, my marriage, him, my life, ect and if he and I had not experienced then honestly I think we would have already been divorced, I also believe that he feels the same way. I love being myslef, I love that my husband can be himself without worry that one of us may have said something wrong, I love that there is very little jealousy in our marriage and that our communications on all levels are true and not that of lies or from someone trying to be someone they are not b/c they are trying so hard to please the other person and be someone else that their spouce wants them to be. It is the true self that one can be without all the head games. Only if two are mature enough and have the trust in one another to love uncondtionally. I think it takes a lot of work, a lot of experience and a lot of droping opinions and molds from up bringings, it's finding out who you really are and becoming that true one person then finding the right person that already knows themsleve. What we are told of what is right or wrong may be different then the whole truth and nothing but the truth, who really is to say? In Roman Days and before marriage was a rule - love was free, it was shared by all not limited!
People who swing shouldnt be married, marriage is a religious commitment and has certain rules ....adultry being one rule that is considered so bad that the Lord gives that as one of only few reasons for a marriage to be terminated.....swinging is adultry period.
i'm sure that they do love their spouse...but they are making a huge mistake. it's a pandora's box that has messed up a lot of marriages. everyone is quick to say ';well, i'm a swinger, and i've been happy for years...yadda yadda yadda';. those people are the exception, not the rule.
It depends on the couple. SUCCESSFUL swinging couples do. Anyone who's in it just to get laid or because they don't like their spouse is probably not going to be part of a couple for long.
I was say yes and it has nothing to do with loving your spouse. If you and your spouse choose to have open relations with other people so be it. At least they are not sneaking behind each others backs.
I don't know. I do think swinging is selfish, and a skewed view of what sex is and what it is for.
i dunno...but i could never swing and i know my husband says he would never do that...we both cant imagine each other w/ any one else other then our selves...But if people choose to, then each to their own...Just not something we would ever do!
Not with the right kind of love. Love doesnt hurt and isnt disfunctional. It doesnt hurt you emotionally and spiritually.
i wouldn't know. i wouldn't think so much tough.
i wouldn't be with a swinger ever anyway.
I really doubt it. I wouldnt like any other man having sex with my wife and I hope she wouldnt like me being with anyone else. some things just arent meant to be shared and sex isnt one of them
i have to say no not totally
if they have to look elsewhere something is wrong
but if both think its okay, well ok
No because swingers are not considerate to the spouse! You lose to a one nighter!
NOT ACCORDING TO THE MAN ABOVE!!
IN GODS EYES THEY DONT
yes they do, as well as the other guys
What are your thoughts on leaving a couple of gallons of water in the bathtub for moister vs a humidifier?
Someone recently suggested doing so as an alternative to using a humidifier and draining the excess every morning before leaving the house.
Your thoughts?What are your thoughts on leaving a couple of gallons of water in the bathtub for moister vs a humidifier?
Good idea,. ... But why not leave it all in.
It cost a lot of money to heat that water,
Save energy; wait 'til it cools.
It will be like an additional radiator-
for a couple of hours. Yes?What are your thoughts on leaving a couple of gallons of water in the bathtub for moister vs a humidifier?
Chi,
The rate of water vapor diffusion into your home's air will be far less than that produced by a humidifier.
So...this becomes a classic conundrum in the whole ';green'; revolution.
Do you want superior results ? If so : Humidifier.
Is getting SOME added humidity while not using electricity your priority ?
If so : Tub.
Your thoughts?What are your thoughts on leaving a couple of gallons of water in the bathtub for moister vs a humidifier?
Good idea,. ... But why not leave it all in.
It cost a lot of money to heat that water,
Save energy; wait 'til it cools.
It will be like an additional radiator-
for a couple of hours. Yes?What are your thoughts on leaving a couple of gallons of water in the bathtub for moister vs a humidifier?
Chi,
The rate of water vapor diffusion into your home's air will be far less than that produced by a humidifier.
So...this becomes a classic conundrum in the whole ';green'; revolution.
Do you want superior results ? If so : Humidifier.
Is getting SOME added humidity while not using electricity your priority ?
If so : Tub.
What songs can you suggest for a couple to have as theres?
Does anyone know of any songs that describe a couple? I'm trying too find a song which describes a couple or is about people in love..
Can anyone help?What songs can you suggest for a couple to have as theres?
the orion experience - obsessed with youWhat songs can you suggest for a couple to have as theres?
If its for you and your loved one, then we can't answer this. It has to be a song that is near and dear to the both of you, thats playing when something special happens.
For my and my boyfriend its Crash into me By Dave Matthews Band
But if its for something else,
Dave matthews band has a lot of beautiful songs,
and with me by sum 41 is really pretty.
No offense- But the entire point of the 'this is our song' thing is because it brings a certain special memory back to you, and usually there's a reason it's 'your' song, not just because you like the music.
You need to make your own memories, hon- Nobody can pick a song that discribes you, you have to do it on your own, because we don't really know you. If you want a song just to say you have one, well, that's pretty silly because it's really not a big deal.
with you chris brown
six feet under the stars all time low
i will follow you into the dark death cab for a cutie
miserable at best mayday parade
almost anything with neyo
my heart paramore
hey there delilah plain white t's
1,2,3,4 plain white t'spimple
Can anyone help?What songs can you suggest for a couple to have as theres?
the orion experience - obsessed with youWhat songs can you suggest for a couple to have as theres?
If its for you and your loved one, then we can't answer this. It has to be a song that is near and dear to the both of you, thats playing when something special happens.
For my and my boyfriend its Crash into me By Dave Matthews Band
But if its for something else,
Dave matthews band has a lot of beautiful songs,
and with me by sum 41 is really pretty.
No offense- But the entire point of the 'this is our song' thing is because it brings a certain special memory back to you, and usually there's a reason it's 'your' song, not just because you like the music.
You need to make your own memories, hon- Nobody can pick a song that discribes you, you have to do it on your own, because we don't really know you. If you want a song just to say you have one, well, that's pretty silly because it's really not a big deal.
with you chris brown
six feet under the stars all time low
i will follow you into the dark death cab for a cutie
miserable at best mayday parade
almost anything with neyo
my heart paramore
hey there delilah plain white t's
1,2,3,4 plain white t's
Any married couples or single parents can give me advice on preparing for a child?
Recently, I left the military in january, then got married in February. We took a bumpp for a lil bit and stayed with her parents for a month and then moved out and got our own place. Unfortunately, i lost my job, and I been outta work for 3 months. she's been obsessed with having a child and she want us to concieve in feb 08. i want to be a father and a loving parent too, but we have a huge heap of bills and i would like to save more. plus, i just started a new job. should we go head or wait? can anyone add expenses on having a baby too? thank you, for listening.Any married couples or single parents can give me advice on preparing for a child?
If she isn't working, then she should get a job for a while, even if it's just at McDonald's. Pay off your debt, get a little emergency fund built up, and start scoping out friends and relatives.
If anyone you know has a baby, ask if you can have, buy, or borrow, their baby items when they are done with them. She can do the same with maternity clothes, if any of her friends or relatives are a similar size to her. I hope your wife isn't a diva who has to have the best of the best, and brand spanking new. Maternity clothes and baby things are used for such a short while, they have a lot of life left after their first go-round.
If you have to buy new baby furniture, think convertible. A crib that converts to a toddler bed, changing table that converts to dresser, etc. Get more mileage from it. Purchase from a discount store, thrift shop, etc. for maximum savings.
You need to strategize and budget. Write down your take-home pay. List all your fixed monthly expenses, rent, car payment, etc. Then your approximate expenses, utilities, etc. Then your variables, groceries, entertainment, etc. See what's left.
It's hard to change fixed expenses, unless you move to a cheaper place, or get a cheaper car.
You can lower your car insurance by choosing a higher deductible, or less coverage, but that has to be weighed against the added risks.
Your best bet is to cut down where it's easiest to cut down. Get frugal. Like utilities, entertainment, and extras. Be very careful with your utilities. Turn off appliances when they aren't in use. Adjust the heat and air to where it's almost uncomfortable but not quite, and strip down to shorts, or add a sweatshirt to make up the difference. Wait to run the washer or dishwasher until you have a full load. Turn off the water while you brush your teeth, and take shorter showers.
With the price of gas, cut down on using the car when possible. Utilize mass transit, walk or bike if you aren't going far. If you use a full service car wash, don't. Start doing it yourself. Get your haircuts at a barber shop, beauty school, or quick cuts type place, instead of the mall. Eliminate unecessary expenses, like big-ticket items, and new clothes until they are really needed. Instead of dinner and a movie, have popcorn and a DVD at home.
Eat hot dogs or spaghetti more often, instead of pricier meats. Buy store brand everything, instead of name brand. It's usually just as good. Make your own salad, instead of buying prepackaged. Banish ';convenience'; foods. You pay for that convenience.
Take your own coffee from home, instead of stopping at Starbucks. Get a filter for your faucet and stop buying bottled water. Don't take the newspaper if you rarely read it, or just take the Sunday paper, that's where the coupons are. Use them for items you would buy anyway. Make a shopping list and stick to it.
Following these tips and whatever else you can think of to save money will add up more quickly than you can imagine! First pay off your debts, then sock it away in your emergency fund. Once you have enough to cover 3-6 months of living expenses, you can start counting the savings towards the baby fund. By then, you should be secure in your job.
All her wages should go in the bank, to make sure your wage covers the budget with some left over. Your goal is to able to support a wife and baby, without draining your savings, and still be able to save towards things like a down payment on a home, a college education for your child or children, and retirement. Also take into account if your health insurance will take a drastic leap changing to a family plan.
Have a heart-to-heart with your wife. You're going to need her to be on the same page. Tell her you want to have a child just as much as she does, but you don't want to rush into it without being financially prepared. Ask what she can do to help. If she can sew, she can make the curtains and bedding for the nursery, and baby clothes. She could scour yard sales for baby furniture. Make things from scratch instead of depending on convenience items. Lose the fake nails (if she has them), and do her own manicures. We all did it when we were teens! Stop spending on anything unnecessary. If she really wants a baby, she should get used to making sacrifices now, she'll be doing it the rest of her life.
Sorry my answer is so long, but I wanted to give you all my best suggestions. By reducing, reusing, and recycling, and being frugal, you can save a lot more than you think. Just look at everything you spend money on and ask yourself if you really need it or just want it, and how you can get it or do it cheaper. Practice this skill now, and it will come in really handy when the baby comes along.
Be aware, if she's in control of the birth control, there's a really good chance she'll get pregnant when she wants to. It's so easy to forget to take that pill! Good luck to you!Any married couples or single parents can give me advice on preparing for a child?
get rid of as much debt as you can before having a baby cuz I tell ya.... the expenses start right with pre natal care and doctor, hosptial costs, and then it is cha ching cha ching... and carry on forever. And let's not even talk about teenagers, saving for university, and on and on .
Babies... cute for sure... expensive... oh yeah! Setting up a room with a crib, change table, even if you are nursing and no formula required, diapers, clothes... they grow out of stuff every three months, toys, car seats for the cars, strollers, new bed at 2 yrs .... on and on.
Deal with your debts first... as much as you can.
Good luck.
With taking care of kids there is no way to really be prepared! No matter how much money you save there will be times it is still tight. You might out wait your child bearing years trying to get prepared.
First, ask yourself if you can provide for this child. Love is the most important thing, but money is the second in this case, as if you think that you are short on money now, wait and see, all the extra things that kids make us pay for. If you are out of work now, theres no way to look at having a child. You need to have a job that has benefits, or else do you want to be in medical debt to that hospital until the kid is 18? One other major thing to think about is, what if your child is born with problems, physical,down syndrome, etc. Are you prepared for that kind of challenge that will NEVER go away? On top of being a great parent, you will need to be able to support your wife even more than ever, as she might get seriously depressed as many new mothers are. Some mothers have a baby and never regain the great bodies and mental states they had prior to having that baby. Are you and her prepared to deal with that. It may soound like its not important, but it could definitely come up. Ask yourself, if you were a small child growning up in the situation that you are currently able to give that child, would you be well off?
If you answer No to some of these questions, I think you know you should wait. If you think you are ready, well... I wish you luck. Kids can be great and really challenging. Remember what Rodney Dangerfield said: The best part about kids, is making them. I wish you the best, but I say you should wait until you are more financially stable...I wish I could go back in time and wait
best advice: get financially stable before having a child. Talk to your spouse and see if you can't negotiate a 6 month wait. During those six months, work hard at getting more stable and paying off some bills.
Babies are EXPENSIVE!!!! Think of spending 75 a week, minimum, on formula, diapers, wipes, etc. Then - 125 a week for daycare. Don't forget clothes, doctors visits, furniture......
When you have a child, you find a way to make it work. But - starting off in the hole just makes it so much harder.
Start putting away a bit each month for the child to help prepare. Try to pay off your debts...having an extra mouth to feed will increase bills. Budget...make a list of costs/bills/extra/entertainment each month- each of you do this seperately and then compare...also do this with expected costs for an infant. and again compare.
Take that Heap o' Bills and make a list. List monthly payments, and the balances. Smallest on top, then largest at the end. Total them up. How much do you pay each month against them. What is your total debt?
Start putting some of your ';extra'; income each month towards your lowest balance. Figure out how long it will take to get a handle on these numbers.
Do your budget. How much ';extra'; do you have anyway?
Go to Wal-Mart (for a general idea). Price cribs, dressers, dressing tables, hampers, diapers, formula, clothing, walkers, car seats,high chairs and Toys. Also, maternity clothes. Figure out what it is going to cost to deck out baby's room. You can ask for some things at a shower. Some things you are going to end up paying for yourself.
Make sure someone is carrying insurance for maternity. Does your wife get a paid leave? How often does baby go to the pediatrician after he is born? (It's frequent with infants.) What is your co-pay? How much of the maternity bill will you guys be responsible for?
Is the car maintained? Gotta do that.
February may not be realistic, but if you work your numbers you may come up with a good time frame.
You can wait forever trying to get this one right, so be reasonable. Somehow, with kids, parents get by.
I wish you luck, son. Kudos for having a reasonable head on your shoulders.
God bless you and yours and those to come....
let me first say to WAIT!!! it's not only the bills to worry about but the emotional toll it will take on your marriage as well. if you are already worried about bills, then it will be worse when you have a baby. honestly i would wait and have a secure job and pay off som of what you have racked up first. honestly if you wait till you're ';financially secure'; you'll never have one. but you have to think about daycare, diapers, food. it's a lot!! but check into some state or county programs (like WIC--they provide formula and food based on income) and see what you can get to help you out. but take your time. you don't want to have a baby and just have more stress in your marriage.
You would do much better to wait until you're both on your feet. Besides the pre-natal care (hope you have insurance), the expenses of ';outfitting'; a baby can be quite enormous...crib, clothes, diapers, formula, bottles, etc.
Why not set a goal of two years from now? That would give you time to settle in to your new job -- maybe she could work also to help pay off the bills and set some aside for the new arrival.
It's great you are thinking ahead...not everyone does!
Good luck to you both.
If she isn't working, then she should get a job for a while, even if it's just at McDonald's. Pay off your debt, get a little emergency fund built up, and start scoping out friends and relatives.
If anyone you know has a baby, ask if you can have, buy, or borrow, their baby items when they are done with them. She can do the same with maternity clothes, if any of her friends or relatives are a similar size to her. I hope your wife isn't a diva who has to have the best of the best, and brand spanking new. Maternity clothes and baby things are used for such a short while, they have a lot of life left after their first go-round.
If you have to buy new baby furniture, think convertible. A crib that converts to a toddler bed, changing table that converts to dresser, etc. Get more mileage from it. Purchase from a discount store, thrift shop, etc. for maximum savings.
You need to strategize and budget. Write down your take-home pay. List all your fixed monthly expenses, rent, car payment, etc. Then your approximate expenses, utilities, etc. Then your variables, groceries, entertainment, etc. See what's left.
It's hard to change fixed expenses, unless you move to a cheaper place, or get a cheaper car.
You can lower your car insurance by choosing a higher deductible, or less coverage, but that has to be weighed against the added risks.
Your best bet is to cut down where it's easiest to cut down. Get frugal. Like utilities, entertainment, and extras. Be very careful with your utilities. Turn off appliances when they aren't in use. Adjust the heat and air to where it's almost uncomfortable but not quite, and strip down to shorts, or add a sweatshirt to make up the difference. Wait to run the washer or dishwasher until you have a full load. Turn off the water while you brush your teeth, and take shorter showers.
With the price of gas, cut down on using the car when possible. Utilize mass transit, walk or bike if you aren't going far. If you use a full service car wash, don't. Start doing it yourself. Get your haircuts at a barber shop, beauty school, or quick cuts type place, instead of the mall. Eliminate unecessary expenses, like big-ticket items, and new clothes until they are really needed. Instead of dinner and a movie, have popcorn and a DVD at home.
Eat hot dogs or spaghetti more often, instead of pricier meats. Buy store brand everything, instead of name brand. It's usually just as good. Make your own salad, instead of buying prepackaged. Banish ';convenience'; foods. You pay for that convenience.
Take your own coffee from home, instead of stopping at Starbucks. Get a filter for your faucet and stop buying bottled water. Don't take the newspaper if you rarely read it, or just take the Sunday paper, that's where the coupons are. Use them for items you would buy anyway. Make a shopping list and stick to it.
Following these tips and whatever else you can think of to save money will add up more quickly than you can imagine! First pay off your debts, then sock it away in your emergency fund. Once you have enough to cover 3-6 months of living expenses, you can start counting the savings towards the baby fund. By then, you should be secure in your job.
All her wages should go in the bank, to make sure your wage covers the budget with some left over. Your goal is to able to support a wife and baby, without draining your savings, and still be able to save towards things like a down payment on a home, a college education for your child or children, and retirement. Also take into account if your health insurance will take a drastic leap changing to a family plan.
Have a heart-to-heart with your wife. You're going to need her to be on the same page. Tell her you want to have a child just as much as she does, but you don't want to rush into it without being financially prepared. Ask what she can do to help. If she can sew, she can make the curtains and bedding for the nursery, and baby clothes. She could scour yard sales for baby furniture. Make things from scratch instead of depending on convenience items. Lose the fake nails (if she has them), and do her own manicures. We all did it when we were teens! Stop spending on anything unnecessary. If she really wants a baby, she should get used to making sacrifices now, she'll be doing it the rest of her life.
Sorry my answer is so long, but I wanted to give you all my best suggestions. By reducing, reusing, and recycling, and being frugal, you can save a lot more than you think. Just look at everything you spend money on and ask yourself if you really need it or just want it, and how you can get it or do it cheaper. Practice this skill now, and it will come in really handy when the baby comes along.
Be aware, if she's in control of the birth control, there's a really good chance she'll get pregnant when she wants to. It's so easy to forget to take that pill! Good luck to you!Any married couples or single parents can give me advice on preparing for a child?
get rid of as much debt as you can before having a baby cuz I tell ya.... the expenses start right with pre natal care and doctor, hosptial costs, and then it is cha ching cha ching... and carry on forever. And let's not even talk about teenagers, saving for university, and on and on .
Babies... cute for sure... expensive... oh yeah! Setting up a room with a crib, change table, even if you are nursing and no formula required, diapers, clothes... they grow out of stuff every three months, toys, car seats for the cars, strollers, new bed at 2 yrs .... on and on.
Deal with your debts first... as much as you can.
Good luck.
With taking care of kids there is no way to really be prepared! No matter how much money you save there will be times it is still tight. You might out wait your child bearing years trying to get prepared.
First, ask yourself if you can provide for this child. Love is the most important thing, but money is the second in this case, as if you think that you are short on money now, wait and see, all the extra things that kids make us pay for. If you are out of work now, theres no way to look at having a child. You need to have a job that has benefits, or else do you want to be in medical debt to that hospital until the kid is 18? One other major thing to think about is, what if your child is born with problems, physical,down syndrome, etc. Are you prepared for that kind of challenge that will NEVER go away? On top of being a great parent, you will need to be able to support your wife even more than ever, as she might get seriously depressed as many new mothers are. Some mothers have a baby and never regain the great bodies and mental states they had prior to having that baby. Are you and her prepared to deal with that. It may soound like its not important, but it could definitely come up. Ask yourself, if you were a small child growning up in the situation that you are currently able to give that child, would you be well off?
If you answer No to some of these questions, I think you know you should wait. If you think you are ready, well... I wish you luck. Kids can be great and really challenging. Remember what Rodney Dangerfield said: The best part about kids, is making them. I wish you the best, but I say you should wait until you are more financially stable...I wish I could go back in time and wait
best advice: get financially stable before having a child. Talk to your spouse and see if you can't negotiate a 6 month wait. During those six months, work hard at getting more stable and paying off some bills.
Babies are EXPENSIVE!!!! Think of spending 75 a week, minimum, on formula, diapers, wipes, etc. Then - 125 a week for daycare. Don't forget clothes, doctors visits, furniture......
When you have a child, you find a way to make it work. But - starting off in the hole just makes it so much harder.
Start putting away a bit each month for the child to help prepare. Try to pay off your debts...having an extra mouth to feed will increase bills. Budget...make a list of costs/bills/extra/entertainment each month- each of you do this seperately and then compare...also do this with expected costs for an infant. and again compare.
Take that Heap o' Bills and make a list. List monthly payments, and the balances. Smallest on top, then largest at the end. Total them up. How much do you pay each month against them. What is your total debt?
Start putting some of your ';extra'; income each month towards your lowest balance. Figure out how long it will take to get a handle on these numbers.
Do your budget. How much ';extra'; do you have anyway?
Go to Wal-Mart (for a general idea). Price cribs, dressers, dressing tables, hampers, diapers, formula, clothing, walkers, car seats,high chairs and Toys. Also, maternity clothes. Figure out what it is going to cost to deck out baby's room. You can ask for some things at a shower. Some things you are going to end up paying for yourself.
Make sure someone is carrying insurance for maternity. Does your wife get a paid leave? How often does baby go to the pediatrician after he is born? (It's frequent with infants.) What is your co-pay? How much of the maternity bill will you guys be responsible for?
Is the car maintained? Gotta do that.
February may not be realistic, but if you work your numbers you may come up with a good time frame.
You can wait forever trying to get this one right, so be reasonable. Somehow, with kids, parents get by.
I wish you luck, son. Kudos for having a reasonable head on your shoulders.
God bless you and yours and those to come....
let me first say to WAIT!!! it's not only the bills to worry about but the emotional toll it will take on your marriage as well. if you are already worried about bills, then it will be worse when you have a baby. honestly i would wait and have a secure job and pay off som of what you have racked up first. honestly if you wait till you're ';financially secure'; you'll never have one. but you have to think about daycare, diapers, food. it's a lot!! but check into some state or county programs (like WIC--they provide formula and food based on income) and see what you can get to help you out. but take your time. you don't want to have a baby and just have more stress in your marriage.
You would do much better to wait until you're both on your feet. Besides the pre-natal care (hope you have insurance), the expenses of ';outfitting'; a baby can be quite enormous...crib, clothes, diapers, formula, bottles, etc.
Why not set a goal of two years from now? That would give you time to settle in to your new job -- maybe she could work also to help pay off the bills and set some aside for the new arrival.
It's great you are thinking ahead...not everyone does!
Good luck to you both.
Interracial Couples in commercials?
I have always wondered why commercials assume every couple is of the same race. I guess they want to remain neutral so racist people still buy their products. The only ones I saw a lot of were of Asian women and white men, b/c people are “used” to that. I have to admit though, that slowly is changing. I have seen two fashion commercials with a white guy liking/dating a black girl. Do you think fashion is “ahead” in progress or something? What is your opinions?Interracial Couples in commercials?
Yeah like Eharmony.com commercials, the couples are always the same race. I saw an Ikea commercial with a interracial couple, the man was Asian and the women was Black, and they had a biracial kid(Black and Asian) on the commercial with them.
On the same commercial they also had a gay (White and Asian) interracial couple, they had a kid too.
That's the only commercial I've seen with interracial couples.Interracial Couples in commercials?
OK! that answer above me who told you to get a life, was just wrong. how rude!
you just ask a question, maybe she should get a life.
i have no idea. maybe their is..
I have greater issues to worry about. get a life.....
Yeah like Eharmony.com commercials, the couples are always the same race. I saw an Ikea commercial with a interracial couple, the man was Asian and the women was Black, and they had a biracial kid(Black and Asian) on the commercial with them.
On the same commercial they also had a gay (White and Asian) interracial couple, they had a kid too.
That's the only commercial I've seen with interracial couples.Interracial Couples in commercials?
OK! that answer above me who told you to get a life, was just wrong. how rude!
you just ask a question, maybe she should get a life.
i have no idea. maybe their is..
I have greater issues to worry about. get a life.....
If love in blind why are interracial dating couples ALWAYS one sided?
Black men White Women
White men Asian Women
You never see anything like Black Women White Men or Asian Men White Women do the degree to which you see the others listed above.
SO LOVE IS NOT BLIND!If love in blind why are interracial dating couples ALWAYS one sided?
I never really thought about it. I am white, and I have seen some good looking black women (not just celebrities).
I have rarely dated a black women, even though I think black is beautiful.
I only date women that I have a lot in common with. Perhaps I just have hobbies that are not popular with most black women. Maybe that is why I mostly date Asian, and Native Americans (my girlfriend is Native American).
I live in an area that is mostly Hispanic. I don’t seem to have anything in common with any Hispanic women. I am Buddhist and not Catholic. I have no desire to have children in my life. These are pretty much relationship “deal-breakers”. That is too bad becuase many doe eyed Hispanic women are very attractive.If love in blind why are interracial dating couples ALWAYS one sided?
Maybe that's true in your neighborhood but it isn't in mine. I live in Chicago and I've seen a black women with an asian man, asian man with a white woman, black and mexican, white and mexican....it doesn't really matter! I don't know why we even care about this stuff anymore. People are people. Lets just get over it.
Love is not blind. Stop living in the clouds and come back to this earth.
It all boils down to personal preference.
i've seen a little bit of every mix, but u r right. love is only blind to a small few. the rest are too afraid of what everyone else thinks.
What is ';ALWAYS';? What do physical characteristics have to do with individual choice?
I suspect you are attracted to black people. Cool. Hopefully, you will be honest with yourself and through your association with ';other than Caucasian'; folks, give yourself an opportunity for growth. Color is not important. Goodness is..
no...you are wrong....i have seen mixers of all of the above...maybe you choose to see what you want........
Whilst this is a stereotype, it has basis in truth (as stereotypes often have). White men go for asian (as in far-eastern) women far more than white women go for asian men. I'm not sure why. Perhaps it is the thought of asian women as being submissive and softer/feminine. And black men are perhaps seen as masculine, much more so than asian men.
I'm just speculating, I don't really know what the reasons are.
I think you're proving your own point.
Well, i can definitely say that there are too many black men with white woman, but i have seen a couple of black women with white man and Asian men and white women. NOT ALOT THOUGH. But thats just the way things are. So, yeah i agree with you, love is not blind!!!!
why do all the black people have trouble spelling properly on here? must be genetic
it does happen. i'm white and i only dated black women until i met my wife and she's hispanic
White men Asian Women
You never see anything like Black Women White Men or Asian Men White Women do the degree to which you see the others listed above.
SO LOVE IS NOT BLIND!If love in blind why are interracial dating couples ALWAYS one sided?
I never really thought about it. I am white, and I have seen some good looking black women (not just celebrities).
I have rarely dated a black women, even though I think black is beautiful.
I only date women that I have a lot in common with. Perhaps I just have hobbies that are not popular with most black women. Maybe that is why I mostly date Asian, and Native Americans (my girlfriend is Native American).
I live in an area that is mostly Hispanic. I don’t seem to have anything in common with any Hispanic women. I am Buddhist and not Catholic. I have no desire to have children in my life. These are pretty much relationship “deal-breakers”. That is too bad becuase many doe eyed Hispanic women are very attractive.If love in blind why are interracial dating couples ALWAYS one sided?
Maybe that's true in your neighborhood but it isn't in mine. I live in Chicago and I've seen a black women with an asian man, asian man with a white woman, black and mexican, white and mexican....it doesn't really matter! I don't know why we even care about this stuff anymore. People are people. Lets just get over it.
Love is not blind. Stop living in the clouds and come back to this earth.
It all boils down to personal preference.
i've seen a little bit of every mix, but u r right. love is only blind to a small few. the rest are too afraid of what everyone else thinks.
What is ';ALWAYS';? What do physical characteristics have to do with individual choice?
I suspect you are attracted to black people. Cool. Hopefully, you will be honest with yourself and through your association with ';other than Caucasian'; folks, give yourself an opportunity for growth. Color is not important. Goodness is..
no...you are wrong....i have seen mixers of all of the above...maybe you choose to see what you want........
Whilst this is a stereotype, it has basis in truth (as stereotypes often have). White men go for asian (as in far-eastern) women far more than white women go for asian men. I'm not sure why. Perhaps it is the thought of asian women as being submissive and softer/feminine. And black men are perhaps seen as masculine, much more so than asian men.
I'm just speculating, I don't really know what the reasons are.
I think you're proving your own point.
Well, i can definitely say that there are too many black men with white woman, but i have seen a couple of black women with white man and Asian men and white women. NOT ALOT THOUGH. But thats just the way things are. So, yeah i agree with you, love is not blind!!!!
why do all the black people have trouble spelling properly on here? must be genetic
it does happen. i'm white and i only dated black women until i met my wife and she's hispanic
Can couples go to the bathhouse at mandalay bay hotel?
Yes and no, there are separate spa facilities for men and women, but couples can enjoy a massage together either at the spa itself or they can have a couples massage in their room.
Has couples therapy worked for you?
i am considering getting my boyfriend of ten years to go with me i would hope it can help. i feel like he is always getting mad at me and he can't deal with things in a friendly manner he always jumps to conclusions and instantly gets mad at me instead of acting in a calm manner. just wanted to know if it has worked for other peopleHas couples therapy worked for you?
dont be so silly, you will now be bringing a disabled person into your relationship that knows nothing about your past, his past and will only suggest ideas, they get paid for giving out a load of modernized crap, how come couples years ago didnt go to them and they stayed together for the longest times, this proffession only came about after they realised they could get money out of the desperate and hopeless, stay well away from them and work things out yourself, some people are just meant to be together for short periods of time until they learn something and then move to someone else if that is what really must happen, too many people today think a relationship should be together forerver, and that is why so many married people more than 50% get divorced, they fell for the hollywood romantic illusion, and was not in control of their decisions that they made based on an emotion
dont be so silly, you will now be bringing a disabled person into your relationship that knows nothing about your past, his past and will only suggest ideas, they get paid for giving out a load of modernized crap, how come couples years ago didnt go to them and they stayed together for the longest times, this proffession only came about after they realised they could get money out of the desperate and hopeless, stay well away from them and work things out yourself, some people are just meant to be together for short periods of time until they learn something and then move to someone else if that is what really must happen, too many people today think a relationship should be together forerver, and that is why so many married people more than 50% get divorced, they fell for the hollywood romantic illusion, and was not in control of their decisions that they made based on an emotion
Are couples who use dental dams with oral sex satisfied or is it not worthwhile to do it at all?
To prevent the spread of infectious diseases couples use dental dam during oral sex on females, is it worthwhile or is it unsatisfactory and if it is unsatis factory which one is more or less unhappy with it, men or womenAre couples who use dental dams with oral sex satisfied or is it not worthwhile to do it at all?
i wouldn't know but i do sell dental supply and get calls from girls ordering it for that purpose .. they always want the thinness we carry. maybe i should take some home and try it on my wife and get back to you on that oneAre couples who use dental dams with oral sex satisfied or is it not worthwhile to do it at all?
If you have to go that way...I'd do without oral sex on a female altogether.
NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!
no i don't think they are okay
Would you enjoy eating soup with a fork?
It's just awkward and frankly no fun...but, then there's the inevitable issue of being a responsible partner...ugh...
Part of the pleasure of oral sex is the tounge licking the flesh of that part of the body and tasting it and NOT licking latex...YUK!!!! Besides, we should all know the risks of oral sex in the first place of getting ';sick'; from a disease or two. Oral sex on a man is different from oral sex on a woman. The man is likely to ejaculate semen, and women only secrete fluids.
Just like using condoms for intercourse, it may be safer, but it doesn't quite feel as good.pimple
i wouldn't know but i do sell dental supply and get calls from girls ordering it for that purpose .. they always want the thinness we carry. maybe i should take some home and try it on my wife and get back to you on that oneAre couples who use dental dams with oral sex satisfied or is it not worthwhile to do it at all?
If you have to go that way...I'd do without oral sex on a female altogether.
NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!
no i don't think they are okay
Would you enjoy eating soup with a fork?
It's just awkward and frankly no fun...but, then there's the inevitable issue of being a responsible partner...ugh...
Part of the pleasure of oral sex is the tounge licking the flesh of that part of the body and tasting it and NOT licking latex...YUK!!!! Besides, we should all know the risks of oral sex in the first place of getting ';sick'; from a disease or two. Oral sex on a man is different from oral sex on a woman. The man is likely to ejaculate semen, and women only secrete fluids.
Just like using condoms for intercourse, it may be safer, but it doesn't quite feel as good.
Why is it that latinos-Meixcans have more couples-boyfriends-Girlfriends then white/caucasian people?
And why do more of them-the mexicans/latinos get married and have kids compared to the whites/caucaisans?Why is it that latinos-Meixcans have more couples-boyfriends-Girlfriends then white/caucasian people?
If I answer this seriously I will go to hell.Why is it that latinos-Meixcans have more couples-boyfriends-Girlfriends then white/caucasian people?
yeah... it's really nice to generalize...
i'm mexican and i've had three serious boyfriends and i'm not married, i don't think that sounds like too much (i'm 23).
and i'm glad that in highschool i stuck to one boyfriend, unlike the cheerleader girls who were giving bl0wj0bs to every member of the football team.
i think many boyfriends/girlfriends is much better than many one night stands.
EDIT: we do go to college, thank you very much. also, the reason there are more mexican teen pregnancies than white teen pregnancies is because mexicans don't run off to get the baby vacuumed out like *some* people. i swear, some girls have abortion punch cards. 5th one is free!!
white麓s get married and have a few children but most of them go to college 1st so they can have a career then get married
we just don麓t have children when we r still teenagers then drop out of school and r force to get married then stuck in a dead end marriage doing a job that just pays the bill and do nothing but having baby麓s by the dozen
They just standout more. A limo will catch your eye over other cars. If you happen to see two or three, say within a 15 minute period, compared to other vehicles, that doesn't mean there are more lemos out there. In their culture, most don't leave the house until in their late 20's, then get married.Logically,there are far more whites than Latinos in the US:
Population, 2006 estimate 299,398,484
White persons, percent, 2006 (a) 80.1%
Persons of Hispanic or Latino origin, percent, 2006 (b) 14.8%
Source U.S. Census Bureau: State and County QuickFacts. Data derived from Population Estimates, Census of Population and Housing, Small Area Income and Poverty Estimates, State and County Housing Unit Estimates, County Business Patterns, Nonemployer Statistics, Economic Census, Survey of Business Owners, Building Permits, Consolidated Federal Funds Report
Last Revised: Wednesday, 02-Jan-2008 15:10:39 EST
Do the math-there are more white couples period.Don't be fooled by racist stereotypes.
Who breeds like cockroaches...???14.8% seems small compared to 80.1% of the population.
because they are not brought up to be infantile until their 20+! their parents aren't helping them with every little thing, so they grow up normally. they are comfortable with peers, adults, and want a future. they respect this country and all it has to offer.
too many white ppl get divorced an we (mexicans )are taught that family is the most importan thing.
uhm.. its their culture.. i'm Russian.. its the same with me...
Guys are taught to pursue when in the Latin culture. Not so much with the white guys.
well i think that family is important and well im afraid to answer with something else cause i think someone will get offended
there are more mexies than whities plus mexies are ugly not hot
Because they breed like cockroaches....?
because for some of them family is THE most important thing in their life and they are raised with that expectation....
WHY DONT YOU ASK ONE?
um... maybe because mexicans are hott
I'm Cuban, but have white skin
I don't have a gf
But I like hearing that
If I answer this seriously I will go to hell.Why is it that latinos-Meixcans have more couples-boyfriends-Girlfriends then white/caucasian people?
yeah... it's really nice to generalize...
i'm mexican and i've had three serious boyfriends and i'm not married, i don't think that sounds like too much (i'm 23).
and i'm glad that in highschool i stuck to one boyfriend, unlike the cheerleader girls who were giving bl0wj0bs to every member of the football team.
i think many boyfriends/girlfriends is much better than many one night stands.
EDIT: we do go to college, thank you very much. also, the reason there are more mexican teen pregnancies than white teen pregnancies is because mexicans don't run off to get the baby vacuumed out like *some* people. i swear, some girls have abortion punch cards. 5th one is free!!
white麓s get married and have a few children but most of them go to college 1st so they can have a career then get married
we just don麓t have children when we r still teenagers then drop out of school and r force to get married then stuck in a dead end marriage doing a job that just pays the bill and do nothing but having baby麓s by the dozen
They just standout more. A limo will catch your eye over other cars. If you happen to see two or three, say within a 15 minute period, compared to other vehicles, that doesn't mean there are more lemos out there. In their culture, most don't leave the house until in their late 20's, then get married.Logically,there are far more whites than Latinos in the US:
Population, 2006 estimate 299,398,484
White persons, percent, 2006 (a) 80.1%
Persons of Hispanic or Latino origin, percent, 2006 (b) 14.8%
Source U.S. Census Bureau: State and County QuickFacts. Data derived from Population Estimates, Census of Population and Housing, Small Area Income and Poverty Estimates, State and County Housing Unit Estimates, County Business Patterns, Nonemployer Statistics, Economic Census, Survey of Business Owners, Building Permits, Consolidated Federal Funds Report
Last Revised: Wednesday, 02-Jan-2008 15:10:39 EST
Do the math-there are more white couples period.Don't be fooled by racist stereotypes.
Who breeds like cockroaches...???14.8% seems small compared to 80.1% of the population.
because they are not brought up to be infantile until their 20+! their parents aren't helping them with every little thing, so they grow up normally. they are comfortable with peers, adults, and want a future. they respect this country and all it has to offer.
too many white ppl get divorced an we (mexicans )are taught that family is the most importan thing.
uhm.. its their culture.. i'm Russian.. its the same with me...
Guys are taught to pursue when in the Latin culture. Not so much with the white guys.
well i think that family is important and well im afraid to answer with something else cause i think someone will get offended
there are more mexies than whities plus mexies are ugly not hot
Because they breed like cockroaches....?
because for some of them family is THE most important thing in their life and they are raised with that expectation....
WHY DONT YOU ASK ONE?
um... maybe because mexicans are hott
I'm Cuban, but have white skin
I don't have a gf
But I like hearing that
Can couples under 18 with a child and no money make it in life?
if they are willing to work their a$$es off. yes. but if they just want tings to start falling off the sky. then no. please be sure you are ready to have a child if you are having sex. do not bring a child to suffer or get pregnant to get a abortion. stay safe.Can couples under 18 with a child and no money make it in life?
Sure with the help of the government...it's prolly the only time they will help so take advantage and get your welfare if your eligible. I have had 2 kids by before I was 21 with little help but struggling money wise........If you have balls and nerves you can make anything work although it will be hard is doable.....Goodluck!Can couples under 18 with a child and no money make it in life?
Of course they can. It just takes a little more work for a teen than a stable adult.
yes. I thought my cousin was going in the wrong direction,getting arrested,hospitalizedd because he almost got killed over some bs,getting in trouble with the cops,homeless and he impreginated his girlfriend. and i cared about my cousin he is a good guy he just was having some hard times he was only 19 and his girlfriend was 18,he joined the army,got married to his girlfriend and turned his life around positive.
If they try their hardest, yes.
Life is going to be hard. You both have growing to do and you have to make sure you know what the word commitment means. Love is not enough....when you make a vow to each other you promise to try your hardest throughout your lives to trust each other...talk to each other...be open and honest with each other...respect each other and work on things when they get hard. AND THEY WILL GET HARDER.....very hard. Financially, and in every way.
If you can allow each other grow and not pull apart..if you can know that life isn't always roses....you will get bored...you will get tired of each other at times...you will need your space sometimes...but you will promise to come back and work on life and not give it up for another human being.
Sometimes you have to honor the marriage when you think you have fallen out of love....when you think someone else has your attention...etc. It is then that you remember your vow...your promise to that certain someone you said you would love forever.
Love is not always passion and good times. It is being there for someone when their nose is running..when they gain weight...when they have problems...when the babies keep you up at night and you have no makeup on or you might have to pitch in and help do laundry and feed the kids ...make dinner occasionally , vaccum a floor...even after 8 hours of work. It is hard...it is not play.
When you know you can put your children FIRST....their safety...their health...their needs...everything in the world comes first because they cannot get it themselves. They cannot solve your problems....you have to solve theirs. You have to make them feel safe...let them be children...let them be happy...and that means not arguing in front of them...not making them afraid of your anger or problems.
In other words you vow to put everyone first in your life...and whatever it is you need....well....occasionally you MIGHT get something....
You have to work on merging two lives together...two separate personalities...two different backgrounds and beliefs...two different views on life...two sets of values...two different ways of handling things....two different sets of family.....
It sometimes means losing yourself in all of that.
It means knowing that you cannot make someone happy and no one can make you happy. That has to come from within. IT means facing responsiblity and knowing that all decisions and choices have two people involved...and you cannot point the finger and say it is all your fault. When you do that you have to realize that three fingers are pointing back at you.
Facing responsibility means just that. Accepting your part in things....and not blaming someone else for what is wrong. Facing the consequences of your actions....no matter how big they are.
I can't say it won't work...but it takes maturity...and it takes emotional strength and it takes courage and faith and KNOWING SOMEONE to even THINK you can make it. People change all the time...and you have to allow that without being threatened...and you have to find a way to grow to keep your marriage together.
Many people who are 18 think they know it all and can do everything....and when they are older they realize how little they do know.
I am 61 honey...in one week married 42 years. I can tell you it is the best thing I ever did...and at times I wondered what I was thinking to marry someone PERIOD. I know..the older I get...the more realize how little I knew about life.
Life happens in a minute. It can change in one second. I had a beautiful granddaughter of 19 months old ...and the next day she was gone. I have a beautiful son and in one second he was dead for 3 minutes and then in a coma for 10 weeks...and in hospitals for 10 years.
You never know what is going to happen....is the person you are going to be with able to withstand that kind of pressure? Most marriages do not....
It could happen.....but if you could wait a couple years...if you could stay together and WAIT a few years....let yourselves grow a little....let yourselves really get to know what it is in life you want...then you have a better chance.
I am not saying it can't.....but you need support of both families...support of friends and people that can be there for you.....supporting BOTH of you emotionally and spiritually.
good luck in your decision.....make sure you take your time...you can always get married....but when you do...make sure you can make it...that you are in it for life...even when things seem impossible or love lost. It is then when you need each other...not so much when things are good.
Sure with the help of the government...it's prolly the only time they will help so take advantage and get your welfare if your eligible. I have had 2 kids by before I was 21 with little help but struggling money wise........If you have balls and nerves you can make anything work although it will be hard is doable.....Goodluck!Can couples under 18 with a child and no money make it in life?
Of course they can. It just takes a little more work for a teen than a stable adult.
yes. I thought my cousin was going in the wrong direction,getting arrested,hospitalizedd because he almost got killed over some bs,getting in trouble with the cops,homeless and he impreginated his girlfriend. and i cared about my cousin he is a good guy he just was having some hard times he was only 19 and his girlfriend was 18,he joined the army,got married to his girlfriend and turned his life around positive.
If they try their hardest, yes.
Life is going to be hard. You both have growing to do and you have to make sure you know what the word commitment means. Love is not enough....when you make a vow to each other you promise to try your hardest throughout your lives to trust each other...talk to each other...be open and honest with each other...respect each other and work on things when they get hard. AND THEY WILL GET HARDER.....very hard. Financially, and in every way.
If you can allow each other grow and not pull apart..if you can know that life isn't always roses....you will get bored...you will get tired of each other at times...you will need your space sometimes...but you will promise to come back and work on life and not give it up for another human being.
Sometimes you have to honor the marriage when you think you have fallen out of love....when you think someone else has your attention...etc. It is then that you remember your vow...your promise to that certain someone you said you would love forever.
Love is not always passion and good times. It is being there for someone when their nose is running..when they gain weight...when they have problems...when the babies keep you up at night and you have no makeup on or you might have to pitch in and help do laundry and feed the kids ...make dinner occasionally , vaccum a floor...even after 8 hours of work. It is hard...it is not play.
When you know you can put your children FIRST....their safety...their health...their needs...everything in the world comes first because they cannot get it themselves. They cannot solve your problems....you have to solve theirs. You have to make them feel safe...let them be children...let them be happy...and that means not arguing in front of them...not making them afraid of your anger or problems.
In other words you vow to put everyone first in your life...and whatever it is you need....well....occasionally you MIGHT get something....
You have to work on merging two lives together...two separate personalities...two different backgrounds and beliefs...two different views on life...two sets of values...two different ways of handling things....two different sets of family.....
It sometimes means losing yourself in all of that.
It means knowing that you cannot make someone happy and no one can make you happy. That has to come from within. IT means facing responsiblity and knowing that all decisions and choices have two people involved...and you cannot point the finger and say it is all your fault. When you do that you have to realize that three fingers are pointing back at you.
Facing responsibility means just that. Accepting your part in things....and not blaming someone else for what is wrong. Facing the consequences of your actions....no matter how big they are.
I can't say it won't work...but it takes maturity...and it takes emotional strength and it takes courage and faith and KNOWING SOMEONE to even THINK you can make it. People change all the time...and you have to allow that without being threatened...and you have to find a way to grow to keep your marriage together.
Many people who are 18 think they know it all and can do everything....and when they are older they realize how little they do know.
I am 61 honey...in one week married 42 years. I can tell you it is the best thing I ever did...and at times I wondered what I was thinking to marry someone PERIOD. I know..the older I get...the more realize how little I knew about life.
Life happens in a minute. It can change in one second. I had a beautiful granddaughter of 19 months old ...and the next day she was gone. I have a beautiful son and in one second he was dead for 3 minutes and then in a coma for 10 weeks...and in hospitals for 10 years.
You never know what is going to happen....is the person you are going to be with able to withstand that kind of pressure? Most marriages do not....
It could happen.....but if you could wait a couple years...if you could stay together and WAIT a few years....let yourselves grow a little....let yourselves really get to know what it is in life you want...then you have a better chance.
I am not saying it can't.....but you need support of both families...support of friends and people that can be there for you.....supporting BOTH of you emotionally and spiritually.
good luck in your decision.....make sure you take your time...you can always get married....but when you do...make sure you can make it...that you are in it for life...even when things seem impossible or love lost. It is then when you need each other...not so much when things are good.
***POLL*** Are you for or against gay/bi couples?
Im for it what are you?***POLL*** Are you for or against gay/bi couples?
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everyone should have a chance to experience love!***POLL*** Are you for or against gay/bi couples?
Im for pride! Gay/bi/les couples shouldnt be judged by the society, and get pointed at and what not. Two girls should walk on the street holding hands, without people saying ';omg look, lesbians';
A woman loving woman relationship is blessed by the goddess lmao
I'm totally against it!
I think people like me should be alone forever. Alone, dateless, useless, hopeless.
Yes, especially since i'm bi, i don't don't see anything wrong with it
For For For!
Well, I am gay, so if I was against it, that would be pretty dumb lol.
All for it.
im not agianst it
for it
love is love no matter who its between
I'm for happy, loving couples. Don't care how the couples are made up.
all for it :)
For....I'm not a lesbian but to be honest I don't care who gets married to whom.
For!
for
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everyone should have a chance to experience love!***POLL*** Are you for or against gay/bi couples?
Im for pride! Gay/bi/les couples shouldnt be judged by the society, and get pointed at and what not. Two girls should walk on the street holding hands, without people saying ';omg look, lesbians';
A woman loving woman relationship is blessed by the goddess lmao
I'm totally against it!
I think people like me should be alone forever. Alone, dateless, useless, hopeless.
Yes, especially since i'm bi, i don't don't see anything wrong with it
For For For!
Well, I am gay, so if I was against it, that would be pretty dumb lol.
All for it.
im not agianst it
for it
love is love no matter who its between
I'm for happy, loving couples. Don't care how the couples are made up.
all for it :)
For....I'm not a lesbian but to be honest I don't care who gets married to whom.
For!
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All couples out there how many times do you have sex a month?
when you do, do you have four play where do you do it only in the bedroom or others placesAll couples out there how many times do you have sex a month?
thats none of your damn business!All couples out there how many times do you have sex a month?
everyday thats how my hubby likes it
We have sex 20-25 times a month. Sometimes it is long and very intense with alot of fondling and oral stimulation. Usually we reserve that for weekends when there is not time factor. Other times a quickie in the shower together, mutual masturbation on the living room floor followed by some oral or some doggy style and then there is sex in the hot tub which is exciting because we know our neighbors watch and play with each other when whe do it there.
SEVERAL, TO MANY TO COUNT. EVERYWHERE.
We have sex about 3 times per day, we don't always have foreplay, we do it anywhere and everywhere inside outside in public places and in private places, spice it up be more creative, adventurous and daring, you and you wife/Husband will get a great thrill and it will keep your sex life going for a long time, don't let it get boring and lifeless.
i wish that i did it as much as the other people in here, but we might have it 5 time a month, i am just never in the mood
Just about every day ... unless he is away on a mission (military) As far as where, there is no place safe in this house - lol!
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
I'm44 she's 40 we don't live together but spend weekends and a weeknight or so together (7years) .We have sex 6-8 times a month. Because it is so seldom, it is (An event) yes foreplay and pretty much where ever we happen to be ,couch bedroom or?. I find ( Vacation Sex The Best) For some reason the frequency and quality seem to increase on vacation.
thats none of your damn business!All couples out there how many times do you have sex a month?
everyday thats how my hubby likes it
We have sex 20-25 times a month. Sometimes it is long and very intense with alot of fondling and oral stimulation. Usually we reserve that for weekends when there is not time factor. Other times a quickie in the shower together, mutual masturbation on the living room floor followed by some oral or some doggy style and then there is sex in the hot tub which is exciting because we know our neighbors watch and play with each other when whe do it there.
SEVERAL, TO MANY TO COUNT. EVERYWHERE.
We have sex about 3 times per day, we don't always have foreplay, we do it anywhere and everywhere inside outside in public places and in private places, spice it up be more creative, adventurous and daring, you and you wife/Husband will get a great thrill and it will keep your sex life going for a long time, don't let it get boring and lifeless.
i wish that i did it as much as the other people in here, but we might have it 5 time a month, i am just never in the mood
Just about every day ... unless he is away on a mission (military) As far as where, there is no place safe in this house - lol!
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
I'm44 she's 40 we don't live together but spend weekends and a weeknight or so together (7years) .We have sex 6-8 times a month. Because it is so seldom, it is (An event) yes foreplay and pretty much where ever we happen to be ,couch bedroom or?. I find ( Vacation Sex The Best) For some reason the frequency and quality seem to increase on vacation.
Married couples, how long did your 'honeymoon period' last?
How long did the honeymoon season last in your marriage?
Just curious.Married couples, how long did your 'honeymoon period' last?
What is it you are considering The Honeymoon Period?
The Best Time in any Relationship is In The Begining.Married couples, how long did your 'honeymoon period' last?
till our daughter was born, but in a good way. Having kids makes you realize it's about more than just each other. You're now responsible for a whole new life. It's both humbling and amazing. It makes you grow up, because the ';honeymoon'; stage is the same as when you first date someone in high school, so no matter how old you are it's like being 16 (in my case I started dating at 16) all over again. I love my wife more everyday, but it's so much better than the love during the honeymoon period.
That only lasts 6 months to a year. And for all those of you out there who don't know, the ';Honeymoon'; period of a relationship is when it is fresh and new, and you are both still on your best behavior. This also means you don't know each other yet, at ALL! After that, marriage is learning to love that person IN SPITE of all those bad habits they were hiding during the ';Honeymoon'; period!
Realistically, I think the honeymoon period lasts as long as you want it too. Let me qualify that by saying that if you keep the fire going, and do not let the day to day obligations interfere on the most important reason why you do what you do (i.e. your spouse). My relationship ran into problems after about five years, because our focused changed from each other to what needed to be done. The last year was very rocky. We are working on getting it back again, and the honeymoon is back!
Not very long.... 3 hours maybe... the @ss wondered off with his single cousins and got so wasted I didn't see him till early the next morning when he stumbled into our ';honeymoon'; suite and promptly passed out and snored our first morning as man and wife away...
Yea not the most mature guy... but i have heard of that its the time after the honeymoon phase that's the best... when you can choose to fall into a deep mature respectful love that will out last any phase of marriage
The actual honeymoon phase lasted about 3 years at which time we had 2 sons so we put more time towards them but they are now grown and we have rekindled our relationship and spend more quality time together. It is best to find a partner that you can talk to because in the end that is what you will need.
I don't think the honeymoon phase is the measuring stick to a good marriage....the key is to keep dating and trying to please each other...if you can keep the romance alive, you will have a great marriage...another important key and please don't over look this...put God first in your marriage, and our mate second and yourself third...
The technical answer to your question would be that amount of time that a couple spends on a trip or a ';get away.'; Well, Nancy and I did not have that. Our ';honeymoon period'; has not ended. We have been on a ';honeymoon'; for 12 1/2 years and counting.
My Love is continous . I am a very passionate and loving person.We have great times together and seldom if ever fight. Believe it or not.. The Honeymoon is everlasting.
Its my kids that I fight with. That honeymoon with bundles of joy is definetely over .
Generation X. (85 and on) ( should be Xd out)
We have been married for seven years, and ours is still going.
People always ask us at the checkout or other social areas when did you get married, we are always teasing, joking, hugging, kissing. People are suprised we have been together for over 9 years.
Its so nice being with my best bud~
I have always heard that it lasts about a year. But personally for my husband and I it lasted about seven or eight years. We have been married for 18 years this coming June.
Ours is still going, we have been married just over a year and together more than five.
Honeymoon period is over %26amp; we're not getting married for another 2 months LOL!
35 years and still going.
Not quite 31 years so far.
I hope peopel give u a practical honest answer for 5to 7 days
A life time.
Five years now, we're still going crazy for each other!!!
I'd say 2 years!
I hope it won't last... but in reality 3 days! hehe
I don't know ... we've been married 23 years and it's still alive.
So far, 27 years, hope it last until our deaths. God is good.!!!!
2 years and then the scales fell off our eyes and realizes we neither one are perfect!...lol... With Jesus it never ends!
Just curious.Married couples, how long did your 'honeymoon period' last?
What is it you are considering The Honeymoon Period?
The Best Time in any Relationship is In The Begining.Married couples, how long did your 'honeymoon period' last?
till our daughter was born, but in a good way. Having kids makes you realize it's about more than just each other. You're now responsible for a whole new life. It's both humbling and amazing. It makes you grow up, because the ';honeymoon'; stage is the same as when you first date someone in high school, so no matter how old you are it's like being 16 (in my case I started dating at 16) all over again. I love my wife more everyday, but it's so much better than the love during the honeymoon period.
That only lasts 6 months to a year. And for all those of you out there who don't know, the ';Honeymoon'; period of a relationship is when it is fresh and new, and you are both still on your best behavior. This also means you don't know each other yet, at ALL! After that, marriage is learning to love that person IN SPITE of all those bad habits they were hiding during the ';Honeymoon'; period!
Realistically, I think the honeymoon period lasts as long as you want it too. Let me qualify that by saying that if you keep the fire going, and do not let the day to day obligations interfere on the most important reason why you do what you do (i.e. your spouse). My relationship ran into problems after about five years, because our focused changed from each other to what needed to be done. The last year was very rocky. We are working on getting it back again, and the honeymoon is back!
Not very long.... 3 hours maybe... the @ss wondered off with his single cousins and got so wasted I didn't see him till early the next morning when he stumbled into our ';honeymoon'; suite and promptly passed out and snored our first morning as man and wife away...
Yea not the most mature guy... but i have heard of that its the time after the honeymoon phase that's the best... when you can choose to fall into a deep mature respectful love that will out last any phase of marriage
The actual honeymoon phase lasted about 3 years at which time we had 2 sons so we put more time towards them but they are now grown and we have rekindled our relationship and spend more quality time together. It is best to find a partner that you can talk to because in the end that is what you will need.
I don't think the honeymoon phase is the measuring stick to a good marriage....the key is to keep dating and trying to please each other...if you can keep the romance alive, you will have a great marriage...another important key and please don't over look this...put God first in your marriage, and our mate second and yourself third...
The technical answer to your question would be that amount of time that a couple spends on a trip or a ';get away.'; Well, Nancy and I did not have that. Our ';honeymoon period'; has not ended. We have been on a ';honeymoon'; for 12 1/2 years and counting.
My Love is continous . I am a very passionate and loving person.We have great times together and seldom if ever fight. Believe it or not.. The Honeymoon is everlasting.
Its my kids that I fight with. That honeymoon with bundles of joy is definetely over .
Generation X. (85 and on) ( should be Xd out)
We have been married for seven years, and ours is still going.
People always ask us at the checkout or other social areas when did you get married, we are always teasing, joking, hugging, kissing. People are suprised we have been together for over 9 years.
Its so nice being with my best bud~
I have always heard that it lasts about a year. But personally for my husband and I it lasted about seven or eight years. We have been married for 18 years this coming June.
Ours is still going, we have been married just over a year and together more than five.
Honeymoon period is over %26amp; we're not getting married for another 2 months LOL!
35 years and still going.
Not quite 31 years so far.
I hope peopel give u a practical honest answer for 5to 7 days
A life time.
Five years now, we're still going crazy for each other!!!
I'd say 2 years!
I hope it won't last... but in reality 3 days! hehe
I don't know ... we've been married 23 years and it's still alive.
So far, 27 years, hope it last until our deaths. God is good.!!!!
2 years and then the scales fell off our eyes and realizes we neither one are perfect!...lol... With Jesus it never ends!
Why is it that latinos-Meixcans have more couples-boyfriends-Girlfriends then white/caucasian people?
And why do more of them-the mexicans/latinos get married and have kids compared to the whites/caucaisans?Why is it that latinos-Meixcans have more couples-boyfriends-Girlfriends then white/caucasian people?
because for some of them family is THE most important thing in their life and they are raised with that expectation....Why is it that latinos-Meixcans have more couples-boyfriends-Girlfriends then white/caucasian people?
If I answer this seriously I will go to hell.
um... maybe because mexicans are hott
because they are not brought up to be infantile until their 20+! their parents aren't helping them with every little thing, so they grow up normally. they are comfortable with peers, adults, and want a future. they respect this country and all it has to offer.
I'm Cuban, but have white skin
I don't have a gf
But I like hearing that
WHY DONT YOU ASK ONE?
Guys are taught to pursue when in the Latin culture. Not so much with the white guys.
well i think that family is important and well im afraid to answer with something else cause i think someone will get offended
Because they breed like cockroaches....?
They just standout more. A limo will catch your eye over other cars. If you happen to see two or three, say within a 15 minute period, compared to other vehicles, that doesn't mean there are more lemos out there. In their culture, most don't leave the house until in their late 20's, then get married.Logically,there are far more whites than Latinos in the US:
Population, 2006 estimate 299,398,484
White persons, percent, 2006 (a) 80.1%
Persons of Hispanic or Latino origin, percent, 2006 (b) 14.8%
Source U.S. Census Bureau: State and County QuickFacts. Data derived from Population Estimates, Census of Population and Housing, Small Area Income and Poverty Estimates, State and County Housing Unit Estimates, County Business Patterns, Nonemployer Statistics, Economic Census, Survey of Business Owners, Building Permits, Consolidated Federal Funds Report
Last Revised: Wednesday, 02-Jan-2008 15:10:39 EST
Do the math-there are more white couples period.Don't be fooled by racist stereotypes.
Who breeds like cockroaches...???14.8% seems small compared to 80.1% of the population.
there are more mexies than whities plus mexies are ugly not hot
uhm.. its their culture.. i'm Russian.. its the same with me...
white麓s get married and have a few children but most of them go to college 1st so they can have a career then get married
we just don麓t have children when we r still teenagers then drop out of school and r force to get married then stuck in a dead end marriage doing a job that just pays the bill and do nothing but having baby麓s by the dozen
yeah... it's really nice to generalize...
i'm mexican and i've had three serious boyfriends and i'm not married, i don't think that sounds like too much (i'm 23).
and i'm glad that in highschool i stuck to one boyfriend, unlike the cheerleader girls who were giving bl0wj0bs to every member of the football team.
i think many boyfriends/girlfriends is much better than many one night stands.
EDIT: we do go to college, thank you very much. also, the reason there are more mexican teen pregnancies than white teen pregnancies is because mexicans don't run off to get the baby vacuumed out like *some* people. i swear, some girls have abortion punch cards. 5th one is free!!
too many white ppl get divorced an we (mexicans )are taught that family is the most importan thing.pimple
because for some of them family is THE most important thing in their life and they are raised with that expectation....Why is it that latinos-Meixcans have more couples-boyfriends-Girlfriends then white/caucasian people?
If I answer this seriously I will go to hell.
um... maybe because mexicans are hott
because they are not brought up to be infantile until their 20+! their parents aren't helping them with every little thing, so they grow up normally. they are comfortable with peers, adults, and want a future. they respect this country and all it has to offer.
I'm Cuban, but have white skin
I don't have a gf
But I like hearing that
WHY DONT YOU ASK ONE?
Guys are taught to pursue when in the Latin culture. Not so much with the white guys.
well i think that family is important and well im afraid to answer with something else cause i think someone will get offended
Because they breed like cockroaches....?
They just standout more. A limo will catch your eye over other cars. If you happen to see two or three, say within a 15 minute period, compared to other vehicles, that doesn't mean there are more lemos out there. In their culture, most don't leave the house until in their late 20's, then get married.Logically,there are far more whites than Latinos in the US:
Population, 2006 estimate 299,398,484
White persons, percent, 2006 (a) 80.1%
Persons of Hispanic or Latino origin, percent, 2006 (b) 14.8%
Source U.S. Census Bureau: State and County QuickFacts. Data derived from Population Estimates, Census of Population and Housing, Small Area Income and Poverty Estimates, State and County Housing Unit Estimates, County Business Patterns, Nonemployer Statistics, Economic Census, Survey of Business Owners, Building Permits, Consolidated Federal Funds Report
Last Revised: Wednesday, 02-Jan-2008 15:10:39 EST
Do the math-there are more white couples period.Don't be fooled by racist stereotypes.
Who breeds like cockroaches...???14.8% seems small compared to 80.1% of the population.
there are more mexies than whities plus mexies are ugly not hot
uhm.. its their culture.. i'm Russian.. its the same with me...
white麓s get married and have a few children but most of them go to college 1st so they can have a career then get married
we just don麓t have children when we r still teenagers then drop out of school and r force to get married then stuck in a dead end marriage doing a job that just pays the bill and do nothing but having baby麓s by the dozen
yeah... it's really nice to generalize...
i'm mexican and i've had three serious boyfriends and i'm not married, i don't think that sounds like too much (i'm 23).
and i'm glad that in highschool i stuck to one boyfriend, unlike the cheerleader girls who were giving bl0wj0bs to every member of the football team.
i think many boyfriends/girlfriends is much better than many one night stands.
EDIT: we do go to college, thank you very much. also, the reason there are more mexican teen pregnancies than white teen pregnancies is because mexicans don't run off to get the baby vacuumed out like *some* people. i swear, some girls have abortion punch cards. 5th one is free!!
too many white ppl get divorced an we (mexicans )are taught that family is the most importan thing.
Can couples under 18 with a child and no money make it in life?
If they try their hardest, yes.Can couples under 18 with a child and no money make it in life?
Of course they can. It just takes a little more work for a teen than a stable adult.Can couples under 18 with a child and no money make it in life?
yes. I thought my cousin was going in the wrong direction,getting arrested,hospitalizedd because he almost got killed over some bs,getting in trouble with the cops,homeless and he impreginated his girlfriend. and i cared about my cousin he is a good guy he just was having some hard times he was only 19 and his girlfriend was 18,he joined the army,got married to his girlfriend and turned his life around positive.
Sure with the help of the government...it's prolly the only time they will help so take advantage and get your welfare if your eligible. I have had 2 kids by before I was 21 with little help but struggling money wise........If you have balls and nerves you can make anything work although it will be hard is doable.....Goodluck!
Life is going to be hard. You both have growing to do and you have to make sure you know what the word commitment means. Love is not enough....when you make a vow to each other you promise to try your hardest throughout your lives to trust each other...talk to each other...be open and honest with each other...respect each other and work on things when they get hard. AND THEY WILL GET HARDER.....very hard. Financially, and in every way.
If you can allow each other grow and not pull apart..if you can know that life isn't always roses....you will get bored...you will get tired of each other at times...you will need your space sometimes...but you will promise to come back and work on life and not give it up for another human being.
Sometimes you have to honor the marriage when you think you have fallen out of love....when you think someone else has your attention...etc. It is then that you remember your vow...your promise to that certain someone you said you would love forever.
Love is not always passion and good times. It is being there for someone when their nose is running..when they gain weight...when they have problems...when the babies keep you up at night and you have no makeup on or you might have to pitch in and help do laundry and feed the kids ...make dinner occasionally , vaccum a floor...even after 8 hours of work. It is hard...it is not play.
When you know you can put your children FIRST....their safety...their health...their needs...everything in the world comes first because they cannot get it themselves. They cannot solve your problems....you have to solve theirs. You have to make them feel safe...let them be children...let them be happy...and that means not arguing in front of them...not making them afraid of your anger or problems.
In other words you vow to put everyone first in your life...and whatever it is you need....well....occasionally you MIGHT get something....
You have to work on merging two lives together...two separate personalities...two different backgrounds and beliefs...two different views on life...two sets of values...two different ways of handling things....two different sets of family.....
It sometimes means losing yourself in all of that.
It means knowing that you cannot make someone happy and no one can make you happy. That has to come from within. IT means facing responsiblity and knowing that all decisions and choices have two people involved...and you cannot point the finger and say it is all your fault. When you do that you have to realize that three fingers are pointing back at you.
Facing responsibility means just that. Accepting your part in things....and not blaming someone else for what is wrong. Facing the consequences of your actions....no matter how big they are.
I can't say it won't work...but it takes maturity...and it takes emotional strength and it takes courage and faith and KNOWING SOMEONE to even THINK you can make it. People change all the time...and you have to allow that without being threatened...and you have to find a way to grow to keep your marriage together.
Many people who are 18 think they know it all and can do everything....and when they are older they realize how little they do know.
I am 61 honey...in one week married 42 years. I can tell you it is the best thing I ever did...and at times I wondered what I was thinking to marry someone PERIOD. I know..the older I get...the more realize how little I knew about life.
Life happens in a minute. It can change in one second. I had a beautiful granddaughter of 19 months old ...and the next day she was gone. I have a beautiful son and in one second he was dead for 3 minutes and then in a coma for 10 weeks...and in hospitals for 10 years.
You never know what is going to happen....is the person you are going to be with able to withstand that kind of pressure? Most marriages do not....
It could happen.....but if you could wait a couple years...if you could stay together and WAIT a few years....let yourselves grow a little....let yourselves really get to know what it is in life you want...then you have a better chance.
I am not saying it can't.....but you need support of both families...support of friends and people that can be there for you.....supporting BOTH of you emotionally and spiritually.
good luck in your decision.....make sure you take your time...you can always get married....but when you do...make sure you can make it...that you are in it for life...even when things seem impossible or love lost. It is then when you need each other...not so much when things are good.
if they are willing to work their a$$es off. yes. but if they just want tings to start falling off the sky. then no. please be sure you are ready to have a child if you are having sex. do not bring a child to suffer or get pregnant to get a abortion. stay safe.
Of course they can. It just takes a little more work for a teen than a stable adult.Can couples under 18 with a child and no money make it in life?
yes. I thought my cousin was going in the wrong direction,getting arrested,hospitalizedd because he almost got killed over some bs,getting in trouble with the cops,homeless and he impreginated his girlfriend. and i cared about my cousin he is a good guy he just was having some hard times he was only 19 and his girlfriend was 18,he joined the army,got married to his girlfriend and turned his life around positive.
Sure with the help of the government...it's prolly the only time they will help so take advantage and get your welfare if your eligible. I have had 2 kids by before I was 21 with little help but struggling money wise........If you have balls and nerves you can make anything work although it will be hard is doable.....Goodluck!
Life is going to be hard. You both have growing to do and you have to make sure you know what the word commitment means. Love is not enough....when you make a vow to each other you promise to try your hardest throughout your lives to trust each other...talk to each other...be open and honest with each other...respect each other and work on things when they get hard. AND THEY WILL GET HARDER.....very hard. Financially, and in every way.
If you can allow each other grow and not pull apart..if you can know that life isn't always roses....you will get bored...you will get tired of each other at times...you will need your space sometimes...but you will promise to come back and work on life and not give it up for another human being.
Sometimes you have to honor the marriage when you think you have fallen out of love....when you think someone else has your attention...etc. It is then that you remember your vow...your promise to that certain someone you said you would love forever.
Love is not always passion and good times. It is being there for someone when their nose is running..when they gain weight...when they have problems...when the babies keep you up at night and you have no makeup on or you might have to pitch in and help do laundry and feed the kids ...make dinner occasionally , vaccum a floor...even after 8 hours of work. It is hard...it is not play.
When you know you can put your children FIRST....their safety...their health...their needs...everything in the world comes first because they cannot get it themselves. They cannot solve your problems....you have to solve theirs. You have to make them feel safe...let them be children...let them be happy...and that means not arguing in front of them...not making them afraid of your anger or problems.
In other words you vow to put everyone first in your life...and whatever it is you need....well....occasionally you MIGHT get something....
You have to work on merging two lives together...two separate personalities...two different backgrounds and beliefs...two different views on life...two sets of values...two different ways of handling things....two different sets of family.....
It sometimes means losing yourself in all of that.
It means knowing that you cannot make someone happy and no one can make you happy. That has to come from within. IT means facing responsiblity and knowing that all decisions and choices have two people involved...and you cannot point the finger and say it is all your fault. When you do that you have to realize that three fingers are pointing back at you.
Facing responsibility means just that. Accepting your part in things....and not blaming someone else for what is wrong. Facing the consequences of your actions....no matter how big they are.
I can't say it won't work...but it takes maturity...and it takes emotional strength and it takes courage and faith and KNOWING SOMEONE to even THINK you can make it. People change all the time...and you have to allow that without being threatened...and you have to find a way to grow to keep your marriage together.
Many people who are 18 think they know it all and can do everything....and when they are older they realize how little they do know.
I am 61 honey...in one week married 42 years. I can tell you it is the best thing I ever did...and at times I wondered what I was thinking to marry someone PERIOD. I know..the older I get...the more realize how little I knew about life.
Life happens in a minute. It can change in one second. I had a beautiful granddaughter of 19 months old ...and the next day she was gone. I have a beautiful son and in one second he was dead for 3 minutes and then in a coma for 10 weeks...and in hospitals for 10 years.
You never know what is going to happen....is the person you are going to be with able to withstand that kind of pressure? Most marriages do not....
It could happen.....but if you could wait a couple years...if you could stay together and WAIT a few years....let yourselves grow a little....let yourselves really get to know what it is in life you want...then you have a better chance.
I am not saying it can't.....but you need support of both families...support of friends and people that can be there for you.....supporting BOTH of you emotionally and spiritually.
good luck in your decision.....make sure you take your time...you can always get married....but when you do...make sure you can make it...that you are in it for life...even when things seem impossible or love lost. It is then when you need each other...not so much when things are good.
if they are willing to work their a$$es off. yes. but if they just want tings to start falling off the sky. then no. please be sure you are ready to have a child if you are having sex. do not bring a child to suffer or get pregnant to get a abortion. stay safe.
All couples out there how many times do you have sex a month?
when you do, do you have four play where do you do it only in the bedroom or others placesAll couples out there how many times do you have sex a month?
thats none of your damn business!All couples out there how many times do you have sex a month?
everyday thats how my hubby likes it
We have sex 20-25 times a month. Sometimes it is long and very intense with alot of fondling and oral stimulation. Usually we reserve that for weekends when there is not time factor. Other times a quickie in the shower together, mutual masturbation on the living room floor followed by some oral or some doggy style and then there is sex in the hot tub which is exciting because we know our neighbors watch and play with each other when whe do it there.
SEVERAL, TO MANY TO COUNT. EVERYWHERE.
We have sex about 3 times per day, we don't always have foreplay, we do it anywhere and everywhere inside outside in public places and in private places, spice it up be more creative, adventurous and daring, you and you wife/Husband will get a great thrill and it will keep your sex life going for a long time, don't let it get boring and lifeless.
i wish that i did it as much as the other people in here, but we might have it 5 time a month, i am just never in the mood
Just about every day ... unless he is away on a mission (military) As far as where, there is no place safe in this house - lol!
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
I'm44 she's 40 we don't live together but spend weekends and a weeknight or so together (7years) .We have sex 6-8 times a month. Because it is so seldom, it is (An event) yes foreplay and pretty much where ever we happen to be ,couch bedroom or?. I find ( Vacation Sex The Best) For some reason the frequency and quality seem to increase on vacation.
thats none of your damn business!All couples out there how many times do you have sex a month?
everyday thats how my hubby likes it
We have sex 20-25 times a month. Sometimes it is long and very intense with alot of fondling and oral stimulation. Usually we reserve that for weekends when there is not time factor. Other times a quickie in the shower together, mutual masturbation on the living room floor followed by some oral or some doggy style and then there is sex in the hot tub which is exciting because we know our neighbors watch and play with each other when whe do it there.
SEVERAL, TO MANY TO COUNT. EVERYWHERE.
We have sex about 3 times per day, we don't always have foreplay, we do it anywhere and everywhere inside outside in public places and in private places, spice it up be more creative, adventurous and daring, you and you wife/Husband will get a great thrill and it will keep your sex life going for a long time, don't let it get boring and lifeless.
i wish that i did it as much as the other people in here, but we might have it 5 time a month, i am just never in the mood
Just about every day ... unless he is away on a mission (military) As far as where, there is no place safe in this house - lol!
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
I'm44 she's 40 we don't live together but spend weekends and a weeknight or so together (7years) .We have sex 6-8 times a month. Because it is so seldom, it is (An event) yes foreplay and pretty much where ever we happen to be ,couch bedroom or?. I find ( Vacation Sex The Best) For some reason the frequency and quality seem to increase on vacation.
***POLL*** Are you for or against gay/bi couples?
Im for it what are you?***POLL*** Are you for or against gay/bi couples?
For
everyone should have a chance to experience love!***POLL*** Are you for or against gay/bi couples?
Im for pride! Gay/bi/les couples shouldnt be judged by the society, and get pointed at and what not. Two girls should walk on the street holding hands, without people saying ';omg look, lesbians';
A woman loving woman relationship is blessed by the goddess lmao
I'm totally against it!
I think people like me should be alone forever. Alone, dateless, useless, hopeless.
Yes, especially since i'm bi, i don't don't see anything wrong with it
For For For!
Well, I am gay, so if I was against it, that would be pretty dumb lol.
All for it.
im not agianst it
for it
love is love no matter who its between
I'm for happy, loving couples. Don't care how the couples are made up.
all for it :)
For....I'm not a lesbian but to be honest I don't care who gets married to whom.
For!
for
For
everyone should have a chance to experience love!***POLL*** Are you for or against gay/bi couples?
Im for pride! Gay/bi/les couples shouldnt be judged by the society, and get pointed at and what not. Two girls should walk on the street holding hands, without people saying ';omg look, lesbians';
A woman loving woman relationship is blessed by the goddess lmao
I'm totally against it!
I think people like me should be alone forever. Alone, dateless, useless, hopeless.
Yes, especially since i'm bi, i don't don't see anything wrong with it
For For For!
Well, I am gay, so if I was against it, that would be pretty dumb lol.
All for it.
im not agianst it
for it
love is love no matter who its between
I'm for happy, loving couples. Don't care how the couples are made up.
all for it :)
For....I'm not a lesbian but to be honest I don't care who gets married to whom.
For!
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Married couples, how long did your 'honeymoon period' last?
How long did the honeymoon season last in your marriage?
Just curious.Married couples, how long did your 'honeymoon period' last?
What is it you are considering The Honeymoon Period?
The Best Time in any Relationship is In The Begining.Married couples, how long did your 'honeymoon period' last?
till our daughter was born, but in a good way. Having kids makes you realize it's about more than just each other. You're now responsible for a whole new life. It's both humbling and amazing. It makes you grow up, because the ';honeymoon'; stage is the same as when you first date someone in high school, so no matter how old you are it's like being 16 (in my case I started dating at 16) all over again. I love my wife more everyday, but it's so much better than the love during the honeymoon period.
That only lasts 6 months to a year. And for all those of you out there who don't know, the ';Honeymoon'; period of a relationship is when it is fresh and new, and you are both still on your best behavior. This also means you don't know each other yet, at ALL! After that, marriage is learning to love that person IN SPITE of all those bad habits they were hiding during the ';Honeymoon'; period!
Realistically, I think the honeymoon period lasts as long as you want it too. Let me qualify that by saying that if you keep the fire going, and do not let the day to day obligations interfere on the most important reason why you do what you do (i.e. your spouse). My relationship ran into problems after about five years, because our focused changed from each other to what needed to be done. The last year was very rocky. We are working on getting it back again, and the honeymoon is back!
Not very long.... 3 hours maybe... the @ss wondered off with his single cousins and got so wasted I didn't see him till early the next morning when he stumbled into our ';honeymoon'; suite and promptly passed out and snored our first morning as man and wife away...
Yea not the most mature guy... but i have heard of that its the time after the honeymoon phase that's the best... when you can choose to fall into a deep mature respectful love that will out last any phase of marriage
The actual honeymoon phase lasted about 3 years at which time we had 2 sons so we put more time towards them but they are now grown and we have rekindled our relationship and spend more quality time together. It is best to find a partner that you can talk to because in the end that is what you will need.
I don't think the honeymoon phase is the measuring stick to a good marriage....the key is to keep dating and trying to please each other...if you can keep the romance alive, you will have a great marriage...another important key and please don't over look this...put God first in your marriage, and our mate second and yourself third...
The technical answer to your question would be that amount of time that a couple spends on a trip or a ';get away.'; Well, Nancy and I did not have that. Our ';honeymoon period'; has not ended. We have been on a ';honeymoon'; for 12 1/2 years and counting.
My Love is continous . I am a very passionate and loving person.We have great times together and seldom if ever fight. Believe it or not.. The Honeymoon is everlasting.
Its my kids that I fight with. That honeymoon with bundles of joy is definetely over .
Generation X. (85 and on) ( should be Xd out)
We have been married for seven years, and ours is still going.
People always ask us at the checkout or other social areas when did you get married, we are always teasing, joking, hugging, kissing. People are suprised we have been together for over 9 years.
Its so nice being with my best bud~
I have always heard that it lasts about a year. But personally for my husband and I it lasted about seven or eight years. We have been married for 18 years this coming June.
Ours is still going, we have been married just over a year and together more than five.
Honeymoon period is over %26amp; we're not getting married for another 2 months LOL!
35 years and still going.
Not quite 31 years so far.
I hope peopel give u a practical honest answer for 5to 7 days
A life time.
Five years now, we're still going crazy for each other!!!
I'd say 2 years!
I hope it won't last... but in reality 3 days! hehe
I don't know ... we've been married 23 years and it's still alive.
So far, 27 years, hope it last until our deaths. God is good.!!!!
2 years and then the scales fell off our eyes and realizes we neither one are perfect!...lol... With Jesus it never ends!
Just curious.Married couples, how long did your 'honeymoon period' last?
What is it you are considering The Honeymoon Period?
The Best Time in any Relationship is In The Begining.Married couples, how long did your 'honeymoon period' last?
till our daughter was born, but in a good way. Having kids makes you realize it's about more than just each other. You're now responsible for a whole new life. It's both humbling and amazing. It makes you grow up, because the ';honeymoon'; stage is the same as when you first date someone in high school, so no matter how old you are it's like being 16 (in my case I started dating at 16) all over again. I love my wife more everyday, but it's so much better than the love during the honeymoon period.
That only lasts 6 months to a year. And for all those of you out there who don't know, the ';Honeymoon'; period of a relationship is when it is fresh and new, and you are both still on your best behavior. This also means you don't know each other yet, at ALL! After that, marriage is learning to love that person IN SPITE of all those bad habits they were hiding during the ';Honeymoon'; period!
Realistically, I think the honeymoon period lasts as long as you want it too. Let me qualify that by saying that if you keep the fire going, and do not let the day to day obligations interfere on the most important reason why you do what you do (i.e. your spouse). My relationship ran into problems after about five years, because our focused changed from each other to what needed to be done. The last year was very rocky. We are working on getting it back again, and the honeymoon is back!
Not very long.... 3 hours maybe... the @ss wondered off with his single cousins and got so wasted I didn't see him till early the next morning when he stumbled into our ';honeymoon'; suite and promptly passed out and snored our first morning as man and wife away...
Yea not the most mature guy... but i have heard of that its the time after the honeymoon phase that's the best... when you can choose to fall into a deep mature respectful love that will out last any phase of marriage
The actual honeymoon phase lasted about 3 years at which time we had 2 sons so we put more time towards them but they are now grown and we have rekindled our relationship and spend more quality time together. It is best to find a partner that you can talk to because in the end that is what you will need.
I don't think the honeymoon phase is the measuring stick to a good marriage....the key is to keep dating and trying to please each other...if you can keep the romance alive, you will have a great marriage...another important key and please don't over look this...put God first in your marriage, and our mate second and yourself third...
The technical answer to your question would be that amount of time that a couple spends on a trip or a ';get away.'; Well, Nancy and I did not have that. Our ';honeymoon period'; has not ended. We have been on a ';honeymoon'; for 12 1/2 years and counting.
My Love is continous . I am a very passionate and loving person.We have great times together and seldom if ever fight. Believe it or not.. The Honeymoon is everlasting.
Its my kids that I fight with. That honeymoon with bundles of joy is definetely over .
Generation X. (85 and on) ( should be Xd out)
We have been married for seven years, and ours is still going.
People always ask us at the checkout or other social areas when did you get married, we are always teasing, joking, hugging, kissing. People are suprised we have been together for over 9 years.
Its so nice being with my best bud~
I have always heard that it lasts about a year. But personally for my husband and I it lasted about seven or eight years. We have been married for 18 years this coming June.
Ours is still going, we have been married just over a year and together more than five.
Honeymoon period is over %26amp; we're not getting married for another 2 months LOL!
35 years and still going.
Not quite 31 years so far.
I hope peopel give u a practical honest answer for 5to 7 days
A life time.
Five years now, we're still going crazy for each other!!!
I'd say 2 years!
I hope it won't last... but in reality 3 days! hehe
I don't know ... we've been married 23 years and it's still alive.
So far, 27 years, hope it last until our deaths. God is good.!!!!
2 years and then the scales fell off our eyes and realizes we neither one are perfect!...lol... With Jesus it never ends!
Married couples: Have you ever been given the silent treatment? What is the longest time it has lasted?
I'm talking about no words exchanged, except maybe a few sentences to test the waters and realize they are still hot.Married couples: Have you ever been given the silent treatment? What is the longest time it has lasted?
Yip given hubby the silent one record time i think with extras.
2 1/5 weeks not a single word, no dinner he had to make his own, do own laundry, made own morning coffee, even had to get himself out of bed as i refused to wake him up . I was realy realy peed at himMarried couples: Have you ever been given the silent treatment? What is the longest time it has lasted?
THIS IS ONE THING I HATE. MY HUSBAND DOES THIS TO ME LIKE EVERY 6 MONTHS. IT COULD BE OVER SOMETHING SO STUPID, A LOT OF TIMES I EVEN FORGET WHY. AFTER 4-5 DAYS, I JUST CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE AND I START GIVING IN, EVEN THOUGH I KNOW I DID NOTHING WRONG. I USE TO CALL MY DAD WHEN HE PULLED THIS ON ME, AND HE WOULD SAY'; JUST BABY HIM, BE NICE, GIVE IN AND IT WILL BE OVER'; SO THAT'S WHAT I DO. BUT I AM TOTALLY SICK OF IT. NEXT TIME IT HAPPENS, I SWEAR I AM NOT GOING TO GIVE IT. I THINK ITS IMMATURE AND STUPID. MEN CAN BE BABIES, I'M SURE A LOT OF WOMAN WOULD AGREE TO THAT. I EVEN TRYED TO TEST THE WATERS TOO LIKE YOU SAID, AND I WOULD SAY A FEW WORDS, BUT HE IS STILL COLD AND HARDLY EVER ANSWERS ME. AFTER A FEW DAYS, IT'S LIKE NOTHING EVER HAPPENED. I KNOW THERE ARE MARRIAGES WITH A LOT MORE PROBLEMS. SO I GUESS I COULD DEAL WITH THIS. GOOD LUCK HUN KATHY
Nope but i give my husband the silent treatment when i'm pissed!
When i'm angry he doesn't get the meaning of leaving me alonr for a while..I'm the type that if you bug me when i'm upset i will end up saying something i don't mean so therefor i need time to cool off and i will not talk to you...
My husband and I have a betime rule........No matter what the situation is or what we did to one another we ';never go to bed upset';......We have stood up late discussing and sometimes even arguing but, we always solve the problem or come up with a ideas to fix the problem...I guess you reach a point in your life where time is too precious and why should one waste it.... You never know what your last words will be to someone and I try within myself to live by the saying'; why put off what you can do today for tomorrow';....There are people who don't get to see tomorrow......
Ask if there's a reason why your spouse isn't talking. Perhaps it's just a sore throat.
If there's a problem, not facing it is not a solution.
yes. It lasted for tow days.
My wife and I went a week when we were first married. Now we just get everything off or chest right away.
It takes too much energy to stay mad and we would rather make love instead.
MY HUBBY IS A POUTTER WHEN THINGS DONT GO HIS WAY I USE TO JUST LET HIM B IT WAS NEVR FOR MAOR THAN A FEW MINTS AND IF HE DOSE IT FOR MORE THAN THAT I START SWEET TALKING HIM KISSING HIM AND GENERIALY PESTTER THE CRB OUT OF HIM UNTIL HE GIVE ME A KISS AND WE MAKE UP AFTER 29YRS OF MARRIAGE HE HAS LEARNED NOT TO DO THAT SO I HAVENT HAD TO DEAL WITH THAT IN A LONG TIME BUT I IDNT GET MARRIED NOT TO TALK AND IM SURE NOT GONNA LET THINGS IKE THAT CUSE TROUBLE IN OTHER PARTS OF OUR REALATIONSHIP THATS JUS DUMB!!
Yes and it was never long enough.................
I've been married 9 months, and it happened for the first time last weekfor 2 days almost! It really takes a lot of energy for pouting and staying angry..I even needed early nights, and lost some weight. My stomache went flat like a Victoia Secret model! ( problems about in-laws...)
In almost 32 years the longest we went without talking was about 2 hours.
This morning. For about 40mins. We both left for work and havent talked except for an email I just got. So I guess its over.
Well I am doing this to my husband now, so far we are working on 15 hours. I am not pleased with his comments yesterday and I have nothing to say. When he figures out that he was wrong and stops being accusatory I will talk again. Until then I am quite content with good night and good bye
I have not spoken to my husband about a year now. We do not live together. He is stupid. If you all are still in the house, then you either have to speak or get divorced. It is not going to be a good marriage, if you stay like this. If communication is a problem, then you need to seek therepy.
Yes it been over 4 years now and I'm loving every minute of it . No more yak yak yak do this do that .
We once gave each other the silent treatment, but we were out with some friends, so we did talk a little bit. When we got home, we immediately made up. Neither of us can stand not being on good terms, and we now try to apologize as quickly as possible. It's not worth the pain. Forgive and forget.
yes...its horrible i bet. i never know how to cope up with it....mine lasted for days initially. but i never give up...it hurts me very much...yet i keep pushing him to talk. i dont know if i am doing the right thing...
Yeah, the wife did that to me. I slapped her across the face and she yelled. That was the end of her silence!
Yip given hubby the silent one record time i think with extras.
2 1/5 weeks not a single word, no dinner he had to make his own, do own laundry, made own morning coffee, even had to get himself out of bed as i refused to wake him up . I was realy realy peed at himMarried couples: Have you ever been given the silent treatment? What is the longest time it has lasted?
THIS IS ONE THING I HATE. MY HUSBAND DOES THIS TO ME LIKE EVERY 6 MONTHS. IT COULD BE OVER SOMETHING SO STUPID, A LOT OF TIMES I EVEN FORGET WHY. AFTER 4-5 DAYS, I JUST CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE AND I START GIVING IN, EVEN THOUGH I KNOW I DID NOTHING WRONG. I USE TO CALL MY DAD WHEN HE PULLED THIS ON ME, AND HE WOULD SAY'; JUST BABY HIM, BE NICE, GIVE IN AND IT WILL BE OVER'; SO THAT'S WHAT I DO. BUT I AM TOTALLY SICK OF IT. NEXT TIME IT HAPPENS, I SWEAR I AM NOT GOING TO GIVE IT. I THINK ITS IMMATURE AND STUPID. MEN CAN BE BABIES, I'M SURE A LOT OF WOMAN WOULD AGREE TO THAT. I EVEN TRYED TO TEST THE WATERS TOO LIKE YOU SAID, AND I WOULD SAY A FEW WORDS, BUT HE IS STILL COLD AND HARDLY EVER ANSWERS ME. AFTER A FEW DAYS, IT'S LIKE NOTHING EVER HAPPENED. I KNOW THERE ARE MARRIAGES WITH A LOT MORE PROBLEMS. SO I GUESS I COULD DEAL WITH THIS. GOOD LUCK HUN KATHY
Nope but i give my husband the silent treatment when i'm pissed!
When i'm angry he doesn't get the meaning of leaving me alonr for a while..I'm the type that if you bug me when i'm upset i will end up saying something i don't mean so therefor i need time to cool off and i will not talk to you...
My husband and I have a betime rule........No matter what the situation is or what we did to one another we ';never go to bed upset';......We have stood up late discussing and sometimes even arguing but, we always solve the problem or come up with a ideas to fix the problem...I guess you reach a point in your life where time is too precious and why should one waste it.... You never know what your last words will be to someone and I try within myself to live by the saying'; why put off what you can do today for tomorrow';....There are people who don't get to see tomorrow......
Ask if there's a reason why your spouse isn't talking. Perhaps it's just a sore throat.
If there's a problem, not facing it is not a solution.
yes. It lasted for tow days.
My wife and I went a week when we were first married. Now we just get everything off or chest right away.
It takes too much energy to stay mad and we would rather make love instead.
MY HUBBY IS A POUTTER WHEN THINGS DONT GO HIS WAY I USE TO JUST LET HIM B IT WAS NEVR FOR MAOR THAN A FEW MINTS AND IF HE DOSE IT FOR MORE THAN THAT I START SWEET TALKING HIM KISSING HIM AND GENERIALY PESTTER THE CRB OUT OF HIM UNTIL HE GIVE ME A KISS AND WE MAKE UP AFTER 29YRS OF MARRIAGE HE HAS LEARNED NOT TO DO THAT SO I HAVENT HAD TO DEAL WITH THAT IN A LONG TIME BUT I IDNT GET MARRIED NOT TO TALK AND IM SURE NOT GONNA LET THINGS IKE THAT CUSE TROUBLE IN OTHER PARTS OF OUR REALATIONSHIP THATS JUS DUMB!!
Yes and it was never long enough.................
I've been married 9 months, and it happened for the first time last weekfor 2 days almost! It really takes a lot of energy for pouting and staying angry..I even needed early nights, and lost some weight. My stomache went flat like a Victoia Secret model! ( problems about in-laws...)
In almost 32 years the longest we went without talking was about 2 hours.
This morning. For about 40mins. We both left for work and havent talked except for an email I just got. So I guess its over.
Well I am doing this to my husband now, so far we are working on 15 hours. I am not pleased with his comments yesterday and I have nothing to say. When he figures out that he was wrong and stops being accusatory I will talk again. Until then I am quite content with good night and good bye
I have not spoken to my husband about a year now. We do not live together. He is stupid. If you all are still in the house, then you either have to speak or get divorced. It is not going to be a good marriage, if you stay like this. If communication is a problem, then you need to seek therepy.
Yes it been over 4 years now and I'm loving every minute of it . No more yak yak yak do this do that .
We once gave each other the silent treatment, but we were out with some friends, so we did talk a little bit. When we got home, we immediately made up. Neither of us can stand not being on good terms, and we now try to apologize as quickly as possible. It's not worth the pain. Forgive and forget.
yes...its horrible i bet. i never know how to cope up with it....mine lasted for days initially. but i never give up...it hurts me very much...yet i keep pushing him to talk. i dont know if i am doing the right thing...
Yeah, the wife did that to me. I slapped her across the face and she yelled. That was the end of her silence!
How much of a tax break do married couples get than single people?
Assuming they have no children.How much of a tax break do married couples get than single people?
I call it a marriage penalty. You will be taxed more on your joint income. When you fill out your W-4 forms, claim 0, married filing single. You can do that. At least that's what I do. I don't have children, and I know I'm giving Uncle Sam a little bit more, but thats ok by me.
Ask your Human resources dept. or your accountant, or anybody that you are close to that understands the tax codes. It is important to know what you are paying.How much of a tax break do married couples get than single people?
LOL they don't that's why it is called a marraige tax. They pay more.cosmetics stores
I call it a marriage penalty. You will be taxed more on your joint income. When you fill out your W-4 forms, claim 0, married filing single. You can do that. At least that's what I do. I don't have children, and I know I'm giving Uncle Sam a little bit more, but thats ok by me.
Ask your Human resources dept. or your accountant, or anybody that you are close to that understands the tax codes. It is important to know what you are paying.How much of a tax break do married couples get than single people?
LOL they don't that's why it is called a marraige tax. They pay more.
Are you afraid of becoming one of those couples where one partner looks and acts a lot older than the other?
even though you are about the same age?
Some people at 40 look and act 60! I see my spouse going this way while I'm still young acting and pert.Are you afraid of becoming one of those couples where one partner looks and acts a lot older than the other?
Honey, I already am, unfortunately!Are you afraid of becoming one of those couples where one partner looks and acts a lot older than the other?
As adults grow in knowledge, they begin to become more mature.
Most adults become more mature and act more old. Acting old means becoming dull and boring. Attempt to become more mature while remaining fun and cool. You can become mature without acting old.
No.
Nope becasue I am older and neither one of us cares becasue we LOVE eachother with all of our hearts!
Well generally that is a sign of settling in on who you are and life as you see it. If you let your husband sit down or get into a comfortable rut then it is bound to happen sooner than later. Change the who and what. Try a weekend in the Poccnos, like Alpine Mtn ski near Paradis Valley. Maybe Killington VT or Loon Mtn ski area. The city has a lot to offer but exploring new things is what being young is all about.
guys tend to age at a greater pace than us lucky girls!! if they have a young spirit and are fun then their outer appearance wont matter so much but if their attitude becomes old and dull they yes i would dread my man ageing before his time!
i would suggst encouraging him to groom better or to take some excercise with you or to do some fun and carefree activities together like when you first dated - go to a theme park or take a vacation anything to revive your relationship and let the sparks fly :o)
Actually, my fiance looks a lot younger than he is. A lot of people are surprised to find that he鈥檚 almost 30. If he were to lose weight, he鈥檇 look even younger. Plus his family (mom/dad) look young.
I don鈥檛 look my age either which is why I get carded all the time.
Either way, it鈥檚 a part of growing up.
yes, but thats life
Some people at 40 look and act 60! I see my spouse going this way while I'm still young acting and pert.Are you afraid of becoming one of those couples where one partner looks and acts a lot older than the other?
Honey, I already am, unfortunately!Are you afraid of becoming one of those couples where one partner looks and acts a lot older than the other?
As adults grow in knowledge, they begin to become more mature.
Most adults become more mature and act more old. Acting old means becoming dull and boring. Attempt to become more mature while remaining fun and cool. You can become mature without acting old.
No.
Nope becasue I am older and neither one of us cares becasue we LOVE eachother with all of our hearts!
Well generally that is a sign of settling in on who you are and life as you see it. If you let your husband sit down or get into a comfortable rut then it is bound to happen sooner than later. Change the who and what. Try a weekend in the Poccnos, like Alpine Mtn ski near Paradis Valley. Maybe Killington VT or Loon Mtn ski area. The city has a lot to offer but exploring new things is what being young is all about.
guys tend to age at a greater pace than us lucky girls!! if they have a young spirit and are fun then their outer appearance wont matter so much but if their attitude becomes old and dull they yes i would dread my man ageing before his time!
i would suggst encouraging him to groom better or to take some excercise with you or to do some fun and carefree activities together like when you first dated - go to a theme park or take a vacation anything to revive your relationship and let the sparks fly :o)
Actually, my fiance looks a lot younger than he is. A lot of people are surprised to find that he鈥檚 almost 30. If he were to lose weight, he鈥檇 look even younger. Plus his family (mom/dad) look young.
I don鈥檛 look my age either which is why I get carded all the time.
Either way, it鈥檚 a part of growing up.
yes, but thats life
Do couples who bicker have better relationships?
I always see two people who ';act like a married couple'; and the woman always smacks the man around and he laughs it off or they bicker about little things...
And then the people who make it look like everything's perfect... Who actually has the better relationship, and why?Do couples who bicker have better relationships?
My wife and I go through that. It depends on the mental stability of the people in the couple. Some people have the strength to endure the bickering and some don't. If you've been through it with other lovers, you might not last long with another one like that. No relationship is perfect, no matter how well they get along or last. Some things are just not worth the breath it takes to argue about.Do couples who bicker have better relationships?
Neither. And they are both trying to make the relationship, what it is not. Both are extremes. The ones who fight a lot, and almost enjoy it - are mal-communicating. The ones who don't fight at all, and just act pretty - probably don't communicate at all. Both lack proper and ample communication skills, and are acting out in a different way.
Bickering is never good for a relationship - but the element of communication, is. The best kind of relationship, is one where both people love and respect each other as they do, themselves; where communication is open, honest, and regular. Disagreement is healthy, only in that it indicates individuality - which is good, of itself. But HOW you express that disagreement, is what determines the good or bad. Having a lot in common is one thing, but something is wrong if two people NEVER disagree. Why? Because we are so fearfully and wonderfully made, that each person is too unique to exactly mimick someone else. And behaving that way indicates a lack of individuality, and unhealthy deferrence or compromise.
That's a pretty general question for a pretty specific situation. Myself, I hate bickering and fighting. I'd rather just leave the situation than fight.
The people who have problems over little sh it, they are keeping it real.
Bickering expresses they are getting everything out of their system. What bothers them, whats on their mind. This actually helps a lot, makes you have a more quality relationship because you know what ticks them off and what not to do. Keeping it looking perfect looking isn't always the best because you bottle everything up and someday you'll explode, this can lead to serious consecuences. So a little bickering is healthy. Just don't bicker too much.
the bickering ppl. the ';perfect people'; are either so dumb they comply with everything because they have no opinion, or they are too low in selfesteem to fight. of course you dont want to fight all the time- but it helps to fight some.
you obviously cant be older than 14. But no, its better to not bicker.... but at the same time express when something makes you mad
Ok, bickering to an extent is fine and healthy...all the time is bad. But if you never disagree bout anything then it sounds like there is something wrong b/c it means...that when one of you gets bothered by something u brush it off and dont say anything (which is obviously bad). Bickering shows that you tell each other what bothers you etc...agn a lil bickering is healthy...a lot o'bickering...is BAD lol
And then the people who make it look like everything's perfect... Who actually has the better relationship, and why?Do couples who bicker have better relationships?
My wife and I go through that. It depends on the mental stability of the people in the couple. Some people have the strength to endure the bickering and some don't. If you've been through it with other lovers, you might not last long with another one like that. No relationship is perfect, no matter how well they get along or last. Some things are just not worth the breath it takes to argue about.Do couples who bicker have better relationships?
Neither. And they are both trying to make the relationship, what it is not. Both are extremes. The ones who fight a lot, and almost enjoy it - are mal-communicating. The ones who don't fight at all, and just act pretty - probably don't communicate at all. Both lack proper and ample communication skills, and are acting out in a different way.
Bickering is never good for a relationship - but the element of communication, is. The best kind of relationship, is one where both people love and respect each other as they do, themselves; where communication is open, honest, and regular. Disagreement is healthy, only in that it indicates individuality - which is good, of itself. But HOW you express that disagreement, is what determines the good or bad. Having a lot in common is one thing, but something is wrong if two people NEVER disagree. Why? Because we are so fearfully and wonderfully made, that each person is too unique to exactly mimick someone else. And behaving that way indicates a lack of individuality, and unhealthy deferrence or compromise.
That's a pretty general question for a pretty specific situation. Myself, I hate bickering and fighting. I'd rather just leave the situation than fight.
The people who have problems over little sh it, they are keeping it real.
Bickering expresses they are getting everything out of their system. What bothers them, whats on their mind. This actually helps a lot, makes you have a more quality relationship because you know what ticks them off and what not to do. Keeping it looking perfect looking isn't always the best because you bottle everything up and someday you'll explode, this can lead to serious consecuences. So a little bickering is healthy. Just don't bicker too much.
the bickering ppl. the ';perfect people'; are either so dumb they comply with everything because they have no opinion, or they are too low in selfesteem to fight. of course you dont want to fight all the time- but it helps to fight some.
you obviously cant be older than 14. But no, its better to not bicker.... but at the same time express when something makes you mad
Ok, bickering to an extent is fine and healthy...all the time is bad. But if you never disagree bout anything then it sounds like there is something wrong b/c it means...that when one of you gets bothered by something u brush it off and dont say anything (which is obviously bad). Bickering shows that you tell each other what bothers you etc...agn a lil bickering is healthy...a lot o'bickering...is BAD lol
For couples: What line did your boyfriend use the first time he got some?
Cheesier the better...
In my case...
';In my country it is traditional for a man and a woman to bond after the ceremonial walk on the beach... but I of course do not expect you to understand...';
He is S. Korean.For couples: What line did your boyfriend use the first time he got some?
';It's Valentine's Day...';For couples: What line did your boyfriend use the first time he got some?
well, i kinda said the line because it was my first time ever...he just kept asking if i was sure, which I thought it was really cute : )
In my case...
';In my country it is traditional for a man and a woman to bond after the ceremonial walk on the beach... but I of course do not expect you to understand...';
He is S. Korean.For couples: What line did your boyfriend use the first time he got some?
';It's Valentine's Day...';For couples: What line did your boyfriend use the first time he got some?
well, i kinda said the line because it was my first time ever...he just kept asking if i was sure, which I thought it was really cute : )
For couples: What line did your boyfriend use the first time he got some?
Cheesier the better...
In my case...
';In my country it is traditional for a man and a woman to bond after the ceremonial walk on the beach... but I of course do not expect you to understand...';
He is S. Korean.For couples: What line did your boyfriend use the first time he got some?
well, i kinda said the line because it was my first time ever...he just kept asking if i was sure, which I thought it was really cute : )For couples: What line did your boyfriend use the first time he got some?
';It's Valentine's Day...';
In my case...
';In my country it is traditional for a man and a woman to bond after the ceremonial walk on the beach... but I of course do not expect you to understand...';
He is S. Korean.For couples: What line did your boyfriend use the first time he got some?
well, i kinda said the line because it was my first time ever...he just kept asking if i was sure, which I thought it was really cute : )For couples: What line did your boyfriend use the first time he got some?
';It's Valentine's Day...';
Married couples , how many of you quit ?
How many guys and gals have quit masturbation after marriage ? or still do it?Married couples , how many of you quit ?
I dont masterbate as much as I did before, but mainly its because the orgasms he gives me are actually better than the ones I give myself, who woulda figured???? I think its the build up, i am impatient and he goes nice and slow.
Anyway, if we have to spend the night apart (hes a truck driver) we both do it, on the phone with eachother.Married couples , how many of you quit ?
Hell yea both of us still do and lots of times we watch each other masturbate plus we make love 5-6 times a week.
Married 14 yrs
He is 38 and i'm 36
Quit?
I just learned how to do it the right way after getting married. Why would i stop now?
LOL
Still going at it.... my husband is coming around more often, so I do it quite a bit less.... but none the less... still doing it!
Being married you have to do it more, this isn't dating you know.
oh god, still do it... TOGETHER!! :D
half the fun doing it together... :D
Why quit? Still do it and even together.
why quit, the more the better....
Why quit? I still do it.
if you like sex you wouldn't be married.
I still do rarely, but I enjoy it with him better.
OMG hell no still rub one off every once in awhile
still do it
still have a go, its nicer with 2 tho
We both still do it.
I dont masterbate as much as I did before, but mainly its because the orgasms he gives me are actually better than the ones I give myself, who woulda figured???? I think its the build up, i am impatient and he goes nice and slow.
Anyway, if we have to spend the night apart (hes a truck driver) we both do it, on the phone with eachother.Married couples , how many of you quit ?
Hell yea both of us still do and lots of times we watch each other masturbate plus we make love 5-6 times a week.
Married 14 yrs
He is 38 and i'm 36
Quit?
I just learned how to do it the right way after getting married. Why would i stop now?
LOL
Still going at it.... my husband is coming around more often, so I do it quite a bit less.... but none the less... still doing it!
Being married you have to do it more, this isn't dating you know.
oh god, still do it... TOGETHER!! :D
half the fun doing it together... :D
Why quit? Still do it and even together.
why quit, the more the better....
Why quit? I still do it.
if you like sex you wouldn't be married.
I still do rarely, but I enjoy it with him better.
OMG hell no still rub one off every once in awhile
still do it
still have a go, its nicer with 2 tho
We both still do it.
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